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TAKING EVERYTHING PERSONAL PREVENTS SELF-GROWTH!

Don’t take it personal, it’s all personal..

Ever since we were young, we would be told ‘not to take things personally’ but this is one of those things that is easier said than done. No matter how hard we try, we can’t help taking things personally because everything in life can be seen as ‘personal.’ When someone comments on anything about us, it is a comment on a personal level. However, there is one big factor that we forget – perspective.

In truth, perspective is something that we always need to be aware of if we aren’t going to let things get us down. As we go through life, we have a system of set opinions and beliefs, and when we come across someone new, we expect them to be the same (or at least see things from our perspective). However, this doesn’t happen, and it can lead to problems. Because we don’t all have the same vantage point in life, we all offer different perspectives and opinions. If we all had the same viewpoint, life would be boring because everyone would agree with everything you ever said and did.

If we look at your personal life, it is the same because you have a perception of how you look, how you act, how people think you act, and how you compare to others. When someone steps up and tells you something different, it is easy to get offended. However, they have been brought up and have gone through life with the same process as you…but with completely different perceptions.

With this in mind, you have to build a resistance and transform your ego into something more solid. If you let go of your ego and your preconceived beliefs, you will be happier to ‘go with the flow’ and be unaffected by what’s going on around you. When you take something personally, this is feeding your ego and making your perceptions stronger, but it won’t allow you to be free when it really matters. We have all developed an ego-based self-image, and it damages friendships and relationships every single day; to prevent this, you have to let go of your ego and be free.

If you allow yourself to open up to the experiences life has to offer, there is no way that this resistance or fear can influence your decisions. If you decide that not every situation has a person to blame or something to judge, you will be free to move down your path with grace. Why? Because you will be embracing who you are rather than putting up a shield that prevents people from getting close. This brick wall that has been sitting in between you and others will be removed, and there will be nothing to take personally. As soon as you open yourself up, you will find your path in life and decisions suddenly become a lot easier because you are…yourself.

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Trusting the Process

‘It’s ok to not have the answer yet, continue your journey and trust the process’

 

This is a quote that should be said and listened to far more often than it is nowadays; we all want to find success whether it is in our personal lives, in our career, in a sports team, in absolutely anything and everything that we do. However, no matter how close we get, we tend to make the mistake of choosing the quickest journey to get there.

 

Sport is a fantastic place to witness this because it is experienced every single year all around the world; for example, basketball teams that go 3-1 up in the play-offs. For some reason, once they go one game away from winning the series, they start to play differently because they are looking for the quickest route of success. This was seen just recently as the Warriors came from 3-1 down to win the series 4-3 and go through to the finals. How did they do this? They trusted their ability, they trusted their preparation and they trusted the process.

 

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This should be taken advantage of every single day and used to get exactly what you want in your personal life as well as your career. If you have a goal for your career and you get close, don’t suddenly chase the quickest route of reaching your goal, trust the process and continue with what you have been doing. This process is clearly working so why would you risk changing it? Ultimately, it may take a bit longer but as long as you have the faith, it will happen.

 

Life is tough; there is always going to be somebody waiting around the corner ready to trip you up, there is always going to be a pitfall for you to get hurt by. As long as you put your trust in the process, you will be staying safe from these setbacks. This does require a certain personality and it can be hard to get used to because from the outside, it may look as though you aren’t making any progress but you will know that you are doing the right thing. Others will get frustrated and will become impatient which simply leads to failure.

 

This isn’t just a method that ‘could work’ or that ‘has potential’, this is proven and can help in a number of different areas of your life. People use this every single day whether they are trying to maintain a personal relationship, climb the proverbial ladder in their career, or even trying to lose weight when on a diet.

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As mentioned, this will not be easy. It may take daily reminders but in the long run, you can chase your dreams whilst believing in yourself, remaining focused and trusting the pr

Succeed Even After Failing

To some people, failure can quite literally be the end of the world. They try to lead their lives as close to ‘perfection’ as possible and if something goes wrong, they have failed and they struggle to get over it. To them, it proves that they are human and that things can go wrong but this is something that they don’t like or enjoy.

 

If you are reading this so far whilst nodding along, you have to realise that this isn’t a healthy way to live. You have to realise that there are certain things in life that you simply cannot control and so things will go wrong from time to time. However, this doesn’t mean that you have some sort of problem that you have to fix. The most important thing about failure is how you deal with it; of course, the easiest thing to do is let it get you down and dwell on how badly you have failed. Although this is the easier method, it definitely isn’t the best one.

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The best way to deal with failure is to use it as an opportunity to learn; it gives you a chance to learn what you can do to improve so that you can do better the next time. Let’s say you have an interview for your dream job and you fail to get offered the role; you could be down and think ‘it’s all over’ OR you can find out where you went wrong and learn how to improve so you ensure you get the job next time. It is important to find out why you failed; in our example, did you fail because you failed to do enough research on the company? Was it because your resume wasn’t up to scratch? Whatever the reason for your failure, you can then treat it as a stepping stone towards growth to ensure it doesn’t happen again.

 

This is what’s known as ‘The Art of Failure’; knowing how to deal with failure is seen as an art because it can sometimes teach you more than success. If you want to succeed in life, you have to harness this power because you will be sure to hit some bumps along the way. If you find yourself failing often, see if there is a common denominator for your failure and find out how to fix it. Maybe it is your mindset; do you need to be more confident?

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As soon as you realise that failure can help you to learn and that you have the power to do so, overcoming a problem suddenly isn’t as hard as it seems. Once you breakdown exactly why you failed and work out solutions to this problem, your personal development will improve dramatically as not all people have this skill; you will suddenly set yourself apart from the rest of the crowd. Treat life like a journey and make sure that you take the hard times alongside the good times; if you ever fail at something, pick yourself up, dust yourself off, find out why you failed and improve in that area so you can continue on the road to success.

5 Question’s to ask yourself in order to get fitness results

T H A N K  Y O U

You have goals, but are you optimally achieving them? Are your current actions going to lead to what you want? Are you attempting to get stronger, lose fat, improve your endurance, or compete? Are you performing the proper exercises and drills? Are you working hard enough and recovering properly? Are you experiencing a lot of injuries due to your training? Is your nutritional intake in line with your goals?

 

There are multiple elements to any training regime. If you’re not seeing the results you want, trying looking at some of the following aspects. Even if things are going well, it can’t hurt to take a step back and see what can be improved on, either!

 

1. Exercises

Many people mistakenly use the wrong activities as the end all, be all way to goal attainment. If you’re attempting to build muscle, you need to use a combination of weights and body weights with a suitable range of reps that stimulate growth. If you’re trying to get lean and more defined, you must eat better, strength train, and engage in high-calorie burning exercises. If endurance is what you want, then that means demanding endurance training like running or spinning. There’s no catch-all exercise for optimal results. Think about what you want to get out of your training, and make sure you’re doing the exercises to match. Consider getting a customized training program that suits your needs. Get one here.

 

2. Intensity

The human body won’t develop if it isn’t pushed to the limit. Easy workouts or exercises won’t produce results, because the body isn’t being challenged. By stressing the body, you encourage it to develop more endurance or muscle mass. Likewise, skill improvement comes from the exact practice of skills. This means intense repetitive practices until what was once difficult becomes effortless. Then from that point you up the intensity again!

 

3. Level

There is a huge difference between people training for competitions and people training for fitness. If you’re a competitor, most likely you’ll need to engage in intensive exercises that have some risk: joint compromising bouncing, jerking, and explosive exercise movements, along with awkward jumping, twisting, and landing situations. If you’re a non-competitor just trying to get in shape, you don’t need to expose your body to those stresses. Make sure to use the exercises that match your level.

 

4. Frequency

Being over-zealous and training too much leads to physical and mental fatigue, and increased potential for injury. Dedication is important, but too much just causes problems. Remember to pace yourself and take regular breaks. This may seem contradictory, since intensity is also a key component of training, but there’s a difference between pushing your body and breaking it. Learn your limits and reach them, but don’t go overboard.

 

5. Nutrition

This one is big. Nutrition fuels the body but you need more than a good caloric balance. Building muscle for instance takes more protein, while endurance takes more carbs. Losing weight means eating less, obviously, but what you do eat should be low in fat. All of these do’s and don’ts can get confusing, but fortunately the internet is a treasure trove of information. Decide what results you want, and a quick Google search will let you find the nutrition plan to reach it!

 

 

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