7 WAYS TO STAY HAPPY | Motivational Article

Staying happy is an everyday decision. Let these 7 tips help you make that everyday decision.

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If you were asked to name some things that make you happy, I am sure you will be able to come up with some good answers, it is easy to know what can make you happy but position yourself to enjoy the full benefits of living a happy life will take more than just knowing what can make you happy.

Creating an environment that will encourage you to feel happy at all times will not necessarily take a huge effort. We have listed out simple steps that you can adopt to make yourself happy at all times.

 

1) Acknowledge only the good things around you at every moment.

Starting out by being grateful for the little things that other people might not have the luxury of is the first step to being happy. You should be grateful for having a shelter and being able to wake up every morning to have the kind of breakfast you want. Many people out there do not have the luxury to make these choices.

Always look out for the good in every situation, we live in a time when we cannot entirely avoid negativity, it is all over the social media and the news, but you can control what you get exposed to. Never let the negative trends discourage you from trying to be happy at all times.

In the end, it is very simple things we could effortlessly do that determine how happy we become.

 

2) Engage in actions that ensure a long-term benefit.

The problem with always seeking short-term benefits is that in a short while you will need to get something else to make you happy, this is a common experience for people who seek gratification from acquiring minor material things.

One common mistake people make is taking jobs they know they will never be happy doing; this is like consciously signing an agreement to be permanently upset every day. A good way to remain happy is to love what you do for a living, so you should consider making better career choices.
If you are looking for ways to be happy, identify your gifts and find ways to use these gifts to help other people around you.

When you can realize the ways your existence on earth can be used to make other people happy, you will appreciate yourself even more despite all your imperfections.

 

3) Concentrate on only what is important to you.

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You’ve been blessed with all you need to live a happy life, look within and find these blessings.
Many people experience frustrations because they have not clearly identified what they want in their lives. If you fall into this category, you are in luck because there are easy steps to overcome this success barrier. The first step is to think carefully about your life and make up your mind on what you want to become. You can proceed by making a list of these things and attempting to draw out a map that will lead you to achieve them.
Remember when you were little and you wanted a particular toy? This was all you thought about all day and night frequently asking your parents when you can get it until they finally bought it for you. This is the measure of dedicated focus you need to apply in achieving your goals. Don’t get distracted by the things you do not have instead, focus on getting the things you can get by following your plan.
I should state here that your plan should be realistic and achievable too, all you should do is believe it can happen and the more confident you get in achieving this goal, the easier it will be for you to make it happen.

 

4) Learn to put yourself first.

Contrary to what you might have previously thought, you will end up feeling worse if you always put the needs of other people before yours.
Sadly, there are a lot of selfish people out there who will use every opportunity to take from you once they find out that you never say no. Think back to the many times you have had to do things for people at your inconvenience. You will realize these people only reach out to you when they need something. This is unfair; you should learn to put yourself first.
Don’t fall victim of wasting your time to suit the needs of other people who don’t really care how you feel, you should learn to say no. This is a common situation almost everyone has had to face, and the truth is you will feel better when you say no, be brief and polite about it, and you will be surprised that the other person will understand because they know what they have asked for is actually unfair to you.

 

Start practicing this today, and you will feel better, don’t ever feel guilty after refusing an unfair request, you have just created more time to focus on achieving your own goals.

 

5) Locate role models who have achieved similar goals and become friends with them.
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Knowing what other people have gone through will help you to make better plans.
In life, we practically have no influence over the family we are born into or who we work with at the office. What we can control is how much interaction we have with people who turn out to be malicious and bitter towards others. The best kind of company is people who think like you, they are ambitious and always seek ways to improve themselves and others around them. You will benefit from these people because there will be similarities in your thoughts and beliefs which is lifting up others and helping out ONLY when you can afford it. When you notice people, who behave in ways you admire, learn from them by observing how they handle issues, become friends with them too. It is also important that you should never try to be like other people, what you should focus on is learning from them and applying these skills in your own special and unique way.

Trying to become another version of a person will only be frustrating, so avoid it.

 

6) Learn from your mistakes and unfortunate experiences
I am yet to see a person who can boldly declare they have lived perfect lives with no mistakes, we are human and we all make mistakes. Don’t feel too bad when you are faced with adversity because it cannot be totally avoided as you forge ahead in life, what you should do is face them boldly and learn from the experience. You should also know that every situation becomes exactly the name you give it, only you can tag and experience as unfortunate or bad.
There are many possibilities that those rejections and disappointments can be a blessing in disguise. We have constantly heard of people who were previously turned down after attempts to secure jobs or contracts they thought would be great for them only for them to get even better opportunities that would have been lost if their earlier attempts had been successful.

This means you should never take rejection or adversity personally, instead believe only the best things can happen to you and keep looking ahead for what is better.

 

7) Always strive to give your very best only within your limits

Happy Graduate Laughing iwontloseBelieving in you means forging ahead even when the means to make it has not been clearly defined. You should have faith in your abilities, and when the time comes to prove yourself, the results will be absolutely excellent.
It is difficult to achieve happiness and success when you lay back, waiting for the perfect moment to act. There might never be a perfect moment, or it might come after you have wasted so much valuable time. It is the gradual and uncertain moves made in faith that will get you where you need to be.
The media and many other platforms have made us believe that imperfection should not be embraced, the level of perfection that is painted through these mediums can be a source of depression for people whose self-esteem get challenged by the perfect looking models seen on TV or the stories of people who became wealthy many years ago. You are distinctively who you are- unique and special people because of those imperfections that make you stand out. Doing something in a different way creates an opportunity for you to define your unique style. There are countless stories of how imperfections have been turned to assets, means through which the lives of the people changed. Dare to explore your uniqueness, never feel less confident because you don’t measure up to the seemingly perfect picture painted out there.

Always remember that being happy is ultimately dependent on your decisions. You have the power to live happily, exercise control over the situations and people you interact with by getting closer to the positive influences and avoiding all forms of negativity.

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The 5 Enemies of Success

Want to get to the top of the mountain? Well, there will be tons of internal and external battles to be faced. Here are 5 enemies of success

Over the years, we have seen numerous tips for what needs to be done to see success. However, what about the factors that will prevent success from coming? We have five of the most important enemies you will need to overcome in the near future!

Negative self-talk – Of course, we sometimes say things to ourselves that could be extremely damaging. We should only be harsh to ourselves if it motivates us to charge forward. Anything that causes you to stop is a success killer. Negative self-talk is almost as bad as someone with someone with an inflated ego

Furthermore, you are more likely to be destroyed when you lose or make a mistake. Suddenly, you start to doubt your own ability and whether you were wrong to ever have confidence in yourself in the first place. If you manage your self-talk correctly, you should be able to bounce back whenever necessary.

Doubt – to bounce back after a failure, you need two things – confidence and an ability to remove doubt. Often, it is a combination of these two factors that help you to progress. For many people each year, they put off doing something new because they doubt their ability or doubt that their idea is viable even though they have planned it carefully. If you have this mindset, you are never going to make the jump required to make progress.

In truth, doubt can be a difficult one to remove because it seems to be ingrained in our minds. However, you will soon get there as long as you continue to work towards your goals. Over time, you will learn to ignore the doubt completely. If this isn’t possible at first, the goal should be to replace it with more positive thoughts.

Procrastination/Stagnation – Whether you are at the beginning of your journey or just a couple of steps from the top, it becomes very easy to procrastinate or stagnate. When you procrastinate, you find every excuse possible to not do your work and stagnation is similar in that you stand still instead of making progress.

In the beginning, it is hard to get started because you have the lack of belief and the doubt. However, you are never going anywhere unless you learn to take the first step. When you start to see some success, it then becomes convincing to stand still and stop working, but you need to remember your dreams. As long as you keep moving, you will be making progress so remember this.

Ego – When you feel a little unworthy, the doubt starts to creep into the mind and this leads to stagnation. On the other hand, your ego can also be an enemy because it leads to overconfidence and you start to become naive to the challenges ahead. In your business, you need to create relationships with customers, colleagues, employees, and suppliers, Sadly, a big ego leads to a sense of self-importance which makes these relationships tough to get started and even tougher to maintain.

Poor Timing – Finally, we have poor timing which, at first, seems like a factor you can’t control. When you look a little deeper, though, it often comes as a result of the things we have seen today – overconfidence, doubt, and generally taking too long or rushing into decisions. Eventually, you need to master timing and realize when opportunities are right in front of your eyes.

There we have it, five enemies, that you will need to overcome to see success. As long as you stay mindful of these 5 negative traits you have a far b vetter chance of landing success and keeping it! There is no reason why you can’t push forward and achieve your goals!

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Seeking Success When progress is Slow

Often, we talk about how to be successful but what happens when this success is slow in the making?

When this happens, we look for ways to speed it up because we just want to see results immediately. In truth, this is because we tend to focus all our attentions on the end result rather than the process of getting there. Suddenly, we want overnight success, but these are unrealistic expectations.

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Journaling and Meditation – When we strive towards success, there will be small achievements as well as little disappointments along the way. Over time, this requires integrity, stamina, and courage if you are to keep going. Sadly, we seem to focus on what isn’t working rather than what is, and this leads to constant disappointment and demotivation.

 

 

Instead, you should be looking to change your mindset to focus on what is working. To do this, we have two simple tips – meditation and journaling. With the latter, you can start each day by noting something or someone you’re grateful for and this will help to focus and realize how lucky you are. If you have many things for which you are grateful, it shows that you are definitely doing something right.

 

As mentioned, we also like mediation. At times, it gets a poor reputation, but this is only because people don’t take the time to learn what it’s all about. Essentially, the aim of meditation is to remove all judgments and thoughts because this allows the unconscious mind to take over. In this state, you can focus on your goals, enable your creative side, and ensure that you’re on the right path.

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Take Action – If success is a little slow so far, you need to question the action you have been taking. In many cases, people believe that they are acting when, in truth, there is a lot more they could be doing. If you have been holding back, ask yourself why this is the case. If you decide that this is definitely the path you desire, take some risks, get out of your comfort zone, and propel yourself forward to reach your goals. Every day, write a list of tasks that will move you forward. If you don’t do them, you need accountability so tell your friends and phone them at the end of the day. As soon as you get used to doing this every day, you will be making progress.

 

Be Patient – Sometimes, success takes hard work; it takes determination; it requires risks and tremendous leaps of faith. Other times, it just requires a little patience. As long as you are doing all you can and you aren’t ending days or weeks with regret, you know that it will come in good time. If you originally wanted overnight success, this patience will be tough, but it will be worth it in the end.

 

Conclusion – Success is an interesting thing; above all else, it is subjective. What does success mean? For you, it may mean reaching the top of your industry and being a well-known figure. For others, it means having the financial security to support their family. As soon as you find your definition of success, you need to work hard, focus on what is working, and practice patience. Once you master this, success is just a matter of time.

 

 

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4 REASONS WHY PEOPLE ARE FAILING! (Real Sh*t!)

4 REASONS WHY YOU FALL SHORT/FAIL
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4 steps to help you invest in yourself the right way!

This is how you Invest in Yourself in Four Easy Steps

 

Nowadays, we hear ‘invest’ and various other similar terms constantly. So much so, the word is automatically linked to employees and more efficient techniques within manufacturing, and everything business-related. However, there is one place that the term is rarely used – on ourselves. At some point, we all reach a stage where we just need to invest in ourselves, but it can be hard knowing where to start.Today, we have four easy steps that you can complete to invest in yourself for a brighter future.

 

Create a List – To start, you have to sit yourself down with a pen and paper and write down all the goals you want to achieve. Whether they are huge life ambitions or small targets you have in life. For example, you might want to write a book, reach a certain weight, learn how to play an instrument, learn a second language, or anything that requires skills developed over time. Although this might sound crazy at first, we want you to write down 30+ things. Don’t worry you won’t be able to stop once you get going.

 

When writing, keep them in three categories where one you need skills to complete, one you can do immediately, and the last you need a little time to complete. By doing this, you are finding your true desires as long as you remember to take your time and take breaks.

 

Create a Chart – As you can see, this is all about letting your creative juices flow with hopes that your mind will do the same. Here, we want you to be honest about your skills. At first, this will not feel natural, but it will be a good experience to learn what skills we have and what skills we lack. In order to achieve some of the goals on your list, you may need to learn some new skills, and there is nothing wrong with this. Here, try and utilize a chart or table of some sort including what research you need to do for the skills, what courses may help you, etc. At the end of it all, you should be left with columns for research, action, and then progress.

 

Take Action – Hopefully, you will feel motivated at this point, and you will want to get started on your list. As soon as you get that first tick on the table, you will feel great, and the motivation should then keep coming. If you followed our tips in the first step, you should have some goals that can be done straight away so get a couple of these ticked off as soon as possible. Once the ticks keep coming, the list will become less intimidating by the day. If you leave the chart with no ticks whatsoever, it will look daunting, and you will eventually give up.

 

Don’t Forget Long-Term Goals – Whenever you get some spare time, you can then start working towards the goals that will take a little longer. Over time, try to remove procrastination and work on your list if you have nothing better to do. As long as you do this, and remember to keep ticking the short-term goals, you will keep making progress.

 

There we have it, four fantastic steps to achieve 30+ goals and continually invest in yourself for years to come. If your list changes, this is absolutely fine. Also, even just four ticks a year is fine because this means 25 years of successful progression!

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Overcoming Failure

So you failed, and you feel like shit, now what? Follow these 10 steps below. 

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In life, some things are simply inevitable, and we, therefore, plan for them accordingly. However, there is something that is almost guaranteed to happen yet we fail to plan – failure. Whether it is professionally or personally, failure is just a fact of life, so we have some fantastic tips to guide you through the process and come out the other side bigger and better than ever before.

 

Step 1: Feel – If you have failed, the first step is to allow yourself to feel what is happening. If you are sad and disappointed, that’s fine! Feel these emotions but do not hold onto these feelings. It will only make you feel worse! Therefore, you should notice any emotion and process your feelings before moving forward.

 

Step 2: Accept – Next, you have to accept whatever it was that happened. If you continue blaming yourself or others, you are holding on when you really should be letting go. If necessary, grab some paper and write down what happened using only facts without blame. Once you do this, you can start to accept that it is in the past and nothing you can do will change that fact.

 

Step 3: Positive Reframing – Even within failure, there are positives to be found so spend some time assessing what the positives might be. Instead of saying ‘I have failed at finishing this task,’ say something like ‘I have spent a little longer on this task than expected.’ Of course, you should never underplay mistakes, but you need to look for the best in every situation.

 

Step 4: Recognize Negative Thoughts – Whether it is name-calling or beating yourself up, you need to identify when negative thoughts occur to then question them. Suddenly, you can start to dispute the negative claims and overhaul your mindset.

 

Step 5: Stop Replaying – As mentioned earlier, there is no way of going back and changing the past so stop thinking about what happened. When you always replay situations, this is called ‘rumination, ’ and it prevents us from moving forward.

 

Step 6: Find the Cause – Once you complete the above, you can start to bounce back, and this begins with identifying the cause. If it could have been prevented, think about what you will do differently next time. As long as you grow from it, failure can actually be incredibly useful.

 

Step 7: Set Goals – What do you want to happen next? If you lost your job, how are you going to proceed from here? As long as you make these goals achievable, there is no reason why you can’t use the opportunity of losing your job to move into your dream career path finally. If possible, talk with others to create viable goals.

 

Step 8: Mental Contrasting – When envisioning all the success that will come, we often get blindsided which is why mental contrasting is important. Instead of just focusing on the perfect life, you also need to envision potential obstacles because then you can plan and appreciate how difficult the journey may be.

 

Step 9: Assess Your Approach – Now you have made mistakes, you know what you need to avoid the next time. Thomas Edison, creator, and inventor of the lightbulb, once said ‘I have not failed. I have just found 10,000 ways that won’t work’. If you can adopt this mindset, you won’t go far wrong.

 

Step 10: Keep Going – With a new goal and plan in place, you can try again and move towards your goal. Ultimately, life is a learning process because no person is born knowing everything. If you want to be the best, you have to learn at every opportunity!

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The Importance of Negative Life Lessons

Let’s start this with a question – when you look at the people at the top of your desired field, do you think that they have ever been through negative experiences? All things considered, this could be a failure, mistakes, and just negative issues that affected their development. Of course, the answer to this is ‘yes’ because everyone has hard times. However, it is how we react and respond to these that will allow us to progress in life.

 

When we look for ways to grow as a person, we normally look for success and good decisions. However, as counter-intuitive as it sounds, there is something to be said for learning the negative life lessons. When we were children, our parents would tell us not to play in the street while we learned other things to avoid ourselves. Despite this, we seem to lose this as we grow older until we only focus on what we should be doing. Why is this the case?

 

Whether it is for our personal lives or in regards to our career, learning what we shouldn’t do is vital. Therefore, the negative life lessons provide us with opportunities in which we get to know ourselves and how to progress. In business, you have to learn not to treat employees poorly. Otherwise, they lose motivation and productivity decreases. In a relationship, yo have to learn not to cut your partner from important decisions otherwise they feel as though their opinion isn’t important. Too often, people see negative experiences as a sign that they should stop, turn around, and run in the opposite direction. Instead, they should be used as opportunities to grow and develop as a person.

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In truth, we could take this a step further. Not only is it important to learn from our mistakes, but it is also valuable to learn from the mistakes of others. If you sit and watch as a friend or colleague fails in some way, you would be foolish to go out there and attempt the same thing. Regardless of the source, the people around you will provide you with opportunities to learn, so you need to snap them up whenever they arise.

 

So far, we have used the term ‘negative life lessons, ’ and this is because they result from negative experiences. However, a good mindset to adopt would be one that sees all life lessons as positive. When Thomas Edison invented the light bulb, the world would be changed forever, but not many people know that he actually failed many times before. In fact, he failed in his creation around 10,000 times. When questioned on this ‘failure,’ he noted that he didn’t fail 10,000 times, he simply found 10,000 ways in which the light bulb would not work. When you think about it, this is a beautiful statement, and it sums up the point we have been discussing today.

 

As soon as you learn to see all lessons as positive, the faster you will make progress towards your goals. Always seeing success can be great but what if you could consistently see success while knowing exactly how to avoid failure? If you put a lot of effort into something only for it to fail tremendously, take a step back and realize how good this can be. Of course, you are entitled to a few seconds of being disappointed, but then you can focus on how not to make the same mistakes in the future!

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3 Simple Ways to Set Yourself Up For Success in 2017

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We reach that time of year again where self-assessment and reflection are at an all-time high. As we head into 2017, we start to assess our goals and decide whether we are truly happy in life or whether changes need to be made. If you choose to progress in your current industry or push towards a new career, we have three simple ways of setting yourself up for success.

 

Set a Plan – Of course, this time of year is synonymous with setting so-called ‘New Year’s Resolutions’ but how successful are these aims? According to a recent study, less than 10% of people feel as though they were successful with their resolution come December. To go further, only 58% of resolutions remain in place after just one month. Why is this the case?

 

In most cases, the failure comes because there is a real lack of planning. When deciding on your goals for 2017, you need to work out exactly how you plan to get there otherwise there is no point in the first place. Would you plan a holiday without planning how to get there? When planning, remember daily, weekly, and monthly actions you can take to progress towards your goals. However, never let planning get in the way of starting the journey.

 

Simplicity is Key – Rather than setting many different goals and getting confused so that, by the end of the year, no progress is made, try to set just one goal for each area of your life. In life, it is always good to have many different ambitions but you will see much better results as soon as you slow down and focus on one goal at a time.

 

For many, quitting smoking is one of the main goals of the year and one simple way to move towards that aim is to calculate what money is currently being spent on the habit and where that money could go if you were to quit. For example, if you have children, it could be put towards a holiday or new toys and clothes. In all areas of your goal-setting, simplicity is key and this should come together with your planning seen in the first tip. Rather than creating difficult and confusing plans, keep things simple and take one small step at a time.

 

Don’t Forget Balance – Having a plan and setting goals is all well and good but this doesn’t mean that we should completely forget other areas of life. In truth, balance should be one of the most important targets that you have this year because we need it for that one word we have used throughout – success.

 

For example, a lack of balance can be seen in many areas of life but commonly in the gym. Have you ever seen a bulky guy in the gym that creates a sense of intimidation just by walking around with huge arms, chest, and shoulders? To see whether they have correct balance, take a glance down at their legs. Sadly, many work too hard on the upper body and leave the legs behind which makes them look like a cartoon character with stick legs. Essentially, this is a brilliant metaphor for life so you need to remember all areas of life and don’t let one fall behind. If your career is going well, don’t forget to take some time to maintain your personal relationships. Every so often, take a step back and reassess to ensure that you remain on the right path.

 

Summary – With these three simple tips, you can set yourself up for success in 2017. Rather than setting a ‘resolution’ this month, why not set some goals and a plan to make sure that you really do succeed in 2017?

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