Creating a Passion for Pain
By Dayne Gingrich
The honeymoon phase ended quickly. Bills continued coming in but the income was not matching them. I felt alive focusing on creating a new life, but the reality of what it would take to make it happen instantly knocked me to the ground. With my first child on the way, I begin feeling a pressure to provide for her unlike any I had ever felt in the past. It often led to sleepless nights, quietly wondering how I was going to fulfill the promise I made to myself months ago. I fought and scraped my way to building a small clientele but kept wondering why it was taking so long. As the frustration became too much to handle, I made a phone call that would forever change my life, and consequently, the lives of every student I would work with from that point on. I dialed my new mentor – a 41-year-old man who was a high school dropout, homeless at 16, and was told he’d never amount to anything. At the time we talked he had completed a Masters in education and was finishing his PhD. He had found a way to persevere and I wanted to know what was inside him that made it possible.
His advice blew my mind! He said having a passion for what I did and working hard every day towards my goal wasn’t enough; I needed to create a passion for the pain and struggle that was attached to the journey. ‘What?’ I thought. ‘Love the pain?’ I was always taught that struggle would be a part of the process but having a passion for it was never included in the equation. He taught me that the difference between the person who attains greatness and the one who only dreams of it is the willingness to endure the most pain. He then went a step further and asked me to invite struggle into my life. This, he said, would ensure I’d never again fear the challenging times that would be waiting for me. Moreover, I’d make them a part of my eventual success story.
I was never the same after this life-altering phone call; my mindset was forever changed. From that point forward, as a personal challenge, I’d ask for pain to enter my days while focusing on how strong I could become. Instead of complaining about the difficulty of my chosen career change, I welcomed it. This immediately empowered me and gave me confidence I never knew I had. Shortly after I made this mindset switch, my business became what I had once imagined, my marriage improved and my relationship with my young daughter soared to another level. My story isn’t about success, but rather about the journey to a more fulfilling life, redefining the rules of achievement and the mindset that’s attached. We all have the ability to create the picture we desire, but struggle along the way is not only inevitable, it’s mandatory. Embrace the painful moments, knowing they’re temporary and ultimately teaching you how to turn your dreams into a reality.