We all need a reminder on what to do when tough situations arise..
In life, there is going to be tough times. Whether you are currently going through something right now or are trying to prepare if something was to happen, shit will happen. However, there is something we can control – how we react. Ultimately, the key is often not to let the tough times get the better of you. Of course, the key question is – how do we do that?
Accept that people make mistakes – When you think of tricky times you have been through before, it is likely to bring back anxiety and sadness. With this in mind, it means that you’re still attached and affected by some ideal. At first, it can be hard to notice this, but you have to if you want to move forward. If a family member hurt you, this still hurts because they aren’t supposed to do this (in theory). To progress, you have to notice this and then let it go. How? By realizing that every human makes mistakes and that, even though it hurts, it has to be accepted.
Be overly Grateful – Secondly, you must always find something to be grateful for in every single moment. When life kicks us to the ground, it can be hard to be grateful, but this is a powerful technique if you can master it correctly. How? Above all else, you have to live in the present because this is the only way you can recognize what’s in front of you. As soon as you do this, you can accept reality and make the best of a bad situation.
Judge much less – If you continue to judge something or someone, there is no way you will ever move on. If you still hold onto blame (even towards yourself), you have to let go of this judgment otherwise, the pain will stay with you for years to come. Even if you aren’t pleased with what happened, you can still relieve yourself of the burden by letting go of judgments. If you manage to do this, it doesn’t mean that you support what happened but rather you want to release the negativity and accept it to then move on.
Attend to others – Finally, place your focus on someone else rather than thinking you are the center of the universe. By doing this, you are getting out of the ‘how does it affect me’ mindset. Once we have someone to focus on, we stop feeling sorry for ourselves and realize that we were over-worrying about something that isn’t important. Again, this will lead to a removal of negativity and will allow you to accept and move on.
As mentioned at the beginning, it is all about how we react and how we pick ourselves up from the ground. By following these simple tips, you will be putting yourself in the best possible position for happiness.