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Overcoming Failure

So you failed, and you feel like shit, now what? Follow these 10 steps below. 

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In life, some things are simply inevitable, and we, therefore, plan for them accordingly. However, there is something that is almost guaranteed to happen yet we fail to plan – failure. Whether it is professionally or personally, failure is just a fact of life, so we have some fantastic tips to guide you through the process and come out the other side bigger and better than ever before.

 

Step 1: Feel – If you have failed, the first step is to allow yourself to feel what is happening. If you are sad and disappointed, that’s fine! Feel these emotions but do not hold onto these feelings. It will only make you feel worse! Therefore, you should notice any emotion and process your feelings before moving forward.

 

Step 2: Accept – Next, you have to accept whatever it was that happened. If you continue blaming yourself or others, you are holding on when you really should be letting go. If necessary, grab some paper and write down what happened using only facts without blame. Once you do this, you can start to accept that it is in the past and nothing you can do will change that fact.

 

Step 3: Positive Reframing – Even within failure, there are positives to be found so spend some time assessing what the positives might be. Instead of saying ‘I have failed at finishing this task,’ say something like ‘I have spent a little longer on this task than expected.’ Of course, you should never underplay mistakes, but you need to look for the best in every situation.

 

Step 4: Recognize Negative Thoughts – Whether it is name-calling or beating yourself up, you need to identify when negative thoughts occur to then question them. Suddenly, you can start to dispute the negative claims and overhaul your mindset.

 

Step 5: Stop Replaying – As mentioned earlier, there is no way of going back and changing the past so stop thinking about what happened. When you always replay situations, this is called ‘rumination, ’ and it prevents us from moving forward.

 

Step 6: Find the Cause – Once you complete the above, you can start to bounce back, and this begins with identifying the cause. If it could have been prevented, think about what you will do differently next time. As long as you grow from it, failure can actually be incredibly useful.

 

Step 7: Set Goals – What do you want to happen next? If you lost your job, how are you going to proceed from here? As long as you make these goals achievable, there is no reason why you can’t use the opportunity of losing your job to move into your dream career path finally. If possible, talk with others to create viable goals.

 

Step 8: Mental Contrasting – When envisioning all the success that will come, we often get blindsided which is why mental contrasting is important. Instead of just focusing on the perfect life, you also need to envision potential obstacles because then you can plan and appreciate how difficult the journey may be.

 

Step 9: Assess Your Approach – Now you have made mistakes, you know what you need to avoid the next time. Thomas Edison, creator, and inventor of the lightbulb, once said ‘I have not failed. I have just found 10,000 ways that won’t work’. If you can adopt this mindset, you won’t go far wrong.

 

Step 10: Keep Going – With a new goal and plan in place, you can try again and move towards your goal. Ultimately, life is a learning process because no person is born knowing everything. If you want to be the best, you have to learn at every opportunity!

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Succeed Even After Failing

To some people, failure can quite literally be the end of the world. They try to lead their lives as close to ‘perfection’ as possible and if something goes wrong, they have failed and they struggle to get over it. To them, it proves that they are human and that things can go wrong but this is something that they don’t like or enjoy.

 

If you are reading this so far whilst nodding along, you have to realise that this isn’t a healthy way to live. You have to realise that there are certain things in life that you simply cannot control and so things will go wrong from time to time. However, this doesn’t mean that you have some sort of problem that you have to fix. The most important thing about failure is how you deal with it; of course, the easiest thing to do is let it get you down and dwell on how badly you have failed. Although this is the easier method, it definitely isn’t the best one.

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The best way to deal with failure is to use it as an opportunity to learn; it gives you a chance to learn what you can do to improve so that you can do better the next time. Let’s say you have an interview for your dream job and you fail to get offered the role; you could be down and think ‘it’s all over’ OR you can find out where you went wrong and learn how to improve so you ensure you get the job next time. It is important to find out why you failed; in our example, did you fail because you failed to do enough research on the company? Was it because your resume wasn’t up to scratch? Whatever the reason for your failure, you can then treat it as a stepping stone towards growth to ensure it doesn’t happen again.

 

This is what’s known as ‘The Art of Failure’; knowing how to deal with failure is seen as an art because it can sometimes teach you more than success. If you want to succeed in life, you have to harness this power because you will be sure to hit some bumps along the way. If you find yourself failing often, see if there is a common denominator for your failure and find out how to fix it. Maybe it is your mindset; do you need to be more confident?

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As soon as you realise that failure can help you to learn and that you have the power to do so, overcoming a problem suddenly isn’t as hard as it seems. Once you breakdown exactly why you failed and work out solutions to this problem, your personal development will improve dramatically as not all people have this skill; you will suddenly set yourself apart from the rest of the crowd. Treat life like a journey and make sure that you take the hard times alongside the good times; if you ever fail at something, pick yourself up, dust yourself off, find out why you failed and improve in that area so you can continue on the road to success.

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5 Reasons Why You’re A failure

Thoughtful Tuesday #14 – 5 Reasons why you’re a failure

 

5 Reasons why you’re a failure

1. You just kinda want it

2. You listen to too much people

3. You’re scared to ask for help

4. You have no game plan

5. You don’t make a comeback

I hope you make immediate changes to position yourself to be a success :) Contact me for any help. I’m here rooting for you :)

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Give up?

If I GIVE UP NOW,
that makes me weak
that makes me a failure
that proves everyone right
and myself wrong
So I will keep doing what I do best: PROGRESS

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