SHOCKING REASONS WHY YOU ARE AFRAID TO SUCCEED AND HOW TO OVERCOME IT

AFRAID OF SUCCESS? HERE IS HOW TO AWARE OF THIS FEAR AND HOW TO CONQUER IT!

All crave success, and virtually everyone wants to succeed. However, there is a major obstacle many faces when pursuing success — FEAR! 

Fear can be described as a two-edged sword that can propel one for success at the same time it can be an instrument for one’s downfall or failure. Today we will be looking at a few things that might be responsible for your fears and active steps to be taken to conquer them all.

Have you experienced the feeling that you get when you see a successful person, that feeling of wanting to be like them? where you judgmental on how they achieved their success?

That feeling is normal but one thing I realized from years of analyzing success is that many tell their success stories as a journey of being relentless, countless hours of unseen hard work, and consistency. Successful people take the bull by the horn and work towards achieving success. Success is usually never given on a platter of gold; it is something you work towards every single day.

REASONS WHY YOU ARE AFRAID

Fear of judgments: Most of the times our opinions about how others achieved their success become the root of our fears. The negativity in your judgments of others success has been what in one way or another affecting us. This simple key means that the thought of being judged the same way we judge others forms the basis of our fear of success. Therefore it is advised we jubilate and celebrate with others in success because surely one good turn deserves another. This is the key to conquering this particular fear.

Fear of pressure: Sometimes we are faced with the pressure from family and friends of having to impress every time they come around. The fear and pressure can be intense that happiness leaves you, increased anxiety, and low esteem which is one of the major factors that contributes to failure. Hardly do you achieve success in a hurry or under pressure. To conquer this fear simply do yourself the favor of appreciating your little efforts and little success as this boosts your chances of achieving great things. Tell yourself there is no good in rushing, after all, the popular saying goes thus: anything worth doing is worth doing well.

Fear of failure: No one likes to fail. Failure has no friends. Nobody identifies with failure, Due to this, the fear of failure remains deep in everyone’s heart even in the so-called successful ones. The fear that they might one day be pushed out of the top, therefore they do everything in their power to see that they maintain the number one spot. Statistics has it that the chances of failure are greater than chances of success but that notwithstanding success is still possible if only you can work towards it. Conquering this particular fear is straightforward, all you have to do is channel your positive energy towards what you have in mind to achieve rather than having thoughts you will fail. You are not a failure you are a conqueror.

Did you enjoy reading this brief article on you fear and how to conquer them? I do hope you found a couple of insights and find the courage to unmask the champion within. Please share this article.

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How do successful people think?

What goes on in the mind of someone pursuing success? let’s take a deeper look in today’s article.

 

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It is common to see success stories of people in the media; they are often celebrated while other people who are aspiring to achieve similar success in their lives stand back and wonder how they can reach such levels. These feelings can be frustrating, leading to thoughts about the mistakes they might be making and other bad decisions that have prevented them from being so successful. If this is your story then it is possible you have been struggling because you have put in all your energy on being successful rather than focusing on what can make you successful. The focus is what matters, how well you can identify a pattern for success and focus on adopting this pattern in your activities will surely end in success but a little distraction can derail you from this path causing you to experience stagnation and waste of time.

Quickly regaining focus is important to continue doing those things that will make you successful, but how do successful people overcome distractions? How do they stay focused on a success plan until they get the positive results?

Thinking hard about this will lead us to understand that it is actually not what successful people focus on but what they don’t let to get in their path to success that matters. In the following part of this article, we will discuss some factors that successful people avoid because they can be a potential source of distraction that can damage their focus on being successful.

 

Starting with nothing

Some entrepreneurs are born into rich homes and they easily have access to all the funds they need to start their business, but there are very many success stories of globally recognized entrepreneurs who started their business with practically nothing but their ideas.  These are resilient people who never gave up even though all the odds were stacked against them. They built and developed their ideas while selling it to everyone around them. Being innovative is the key to overcoming the hurdle of limited resources to actualize your dreams. This will also be achieved when you have an unwavering confidence in the success of your ideas when they become commercialized. Never let the limitation of scarce resources stop you from pursuing your dreams, work on your ideas and they will be sold to realize the money you need to succeed.

 

Work hard to avoid making excuses

Successful people don’t permit the circumstance that will force them to give excuses for uncompleted tasks or not meeting up with their responsibilities. This mindset is also used to coordinate the team. Every team member must be proactive about meeting up with their responsibilities because each of the tasks delegated to every team member will collectively support the achievement of the team’s goals.

 

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Many people work from nine to five every day and they become frantic about leaving their jobs once the clock strikes five. These restrictions are seen as limitations for people who are focused on being successful. These people are proactive, they work at their goals without considering the time they need to put into this drive to achieve the desired results. With a clear goal in focus, people who achieve success will work for as long as it takes for them to achieve their goals and only then will they realize how long they had been at work but the rewards will be absolutely worth the sacrifice.

 

Overlooking critics

Our mention of critics here does not refer to those people who point out errors in your work or parts that should have been done better. We are talking about those people who condemn your work and throw in all kinds of negative comments about it without proffering any useful solutions on how you can develop your skills. Stay away from critics, a good way to identify the category of critics to avoid at all costs is this- people who want to help you become better will strike up a conversation with you to understand why you made certain decisions and to know if you understand how their corrections can make your work better, but the critics to avoid are those people who are only concerned with throwing in their negative comments without wanting to hear your views on the issue.

 

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It is actually unproductive to dwell on your past mistakes hence allowing regret to take over your emotions. This can slow down your progress when your focus is distracted. Successful people approach mistakes as part of the learning curve on their path to success. They quickly realize the mistakes that have been made and then seek to get a good understanding of the consequences and how these mistakes can be avoided in the future. We all make mistakes, it is even easier to make mistakes when working on a tight schedule with tough goals that can increase the pressure on you to succeed so don’t beat yourself up about your mistakes, learn from them.

Deal with uncertainty

 

Admitting that you cannot know everything is a progressive attitude. There will always be a level of uncertainty about various aspects of your goals. This is a factor that affects almost all aspects of life even outside the strive to be successful in everything you do. Understanding that you will not have the solution to every challenge handy, it is best to work harder at your strong points while leaving an opportunity to gather information that will be crucial to resolving those issues later in the future. Successful people do not allow their hindrances to slow them down; they focus on their strong points and eventually achieve success.

 

Acknowledge the potential problems

Successful people are not in the habit if guessing their next decisions and moves, they are people who have thought about their strategies carefully while identifying the problems that might be faced. Knowing the potential challenges can be used a leverage to prepare yourself before the problems arise. This way, you will not be distracted because you already have a plan to overcome these challenges.

 

Leveraging on the skills of other people

No one knows better than successful people that it is actually impossible to possess all the skills needed for their businesses to thrive. This is the essence of forming a team of professionals who are proficient in these individual skills. Coming together as a group will provide the platform through which other people can use their skills to sort out issues as the development of the ideas progress. Successful people don’t try to learn all the skills, they form a team made up of people who have the skills they need for their businesses to grow.

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Handling past failures

Successful people don’t just shut out the challenges they have lost. Every problem that has limited them in any way becomes a study for successful people. they seek to understand how the made the mistakes that caused them victory in those challenges and with this information, they forge ahead knowing if similar challenges arise in the future they will easily overcome them.

I hope you made some notes as you were reading this article. So, at this point, you should have a good idea of what have been your biggest distraction, and the factors that you have let to come in between you and success. If these factors were not in the picture, would you be a successful person today?

 

Start focusing on only what is important to your goals; never let any distractions get in your path to success. Begin determined and disciplined will go a long way in forming that winning attitude that will withstand all of the challenges you have just read about. Keep your focus on developing the habits that are commonly practiced by successful people.

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Overcoming Failure

So you failed, and you feel like shit, now what? Follow these 10 steps below. 

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In life, some things are simply inevitable, and we, therefore, plan for them accordingly. However, there is something that is almost guaranteed to happen yet we fail to plan – failure. Whether it is professionally or personally, failure is just a fact of life, so we have some fantastic tips to guide you through the process and come out the other side bigger and better than ever before.

 

Step 1: Feel – If you have failed, the first step is to allow yourself to feel what is happening. If you are sad and disappointed, that’s fine! Feel these emotions but do not hold onto these feelings. It will only make you feel worse! Therefore, you should notice any emotion and process your feelings before moving forward.

 

Step 2: Accept – Next, you have to accept whatever it was that happened. If you continue blaming yourself or others, you are holding on when you really should be letting go. If necessary, grab some paper and write down what happened using only facts without blame. Once you do this, you can start to accept that it is in the past and nothing you can do will change that fact.

 

Step 3: Positive Reframing – Even within failure, there are positives to be found so spend some time assessing what the positives might be. Instead of saying ‘I have failed at finishing this task,’ say something like ‘I have spent a little longer on this task than expected.’ Of course, you should never underplay mistakes, but you need to look for the best in every situation.

 

Step 4: Recognize Negative Thoughts – Whether it is name-calling or beating yourself up, you need to identify when negative thoughts occur to then question them. Suddenly, you can start to dispute the negative claims and overhaul your mindset.

 

Step 5: Stop Replaying – As mentioned earlier, there is no way of going back and changing the past so stop thinking about what happened. When you always replay situations, this is called ‘rumination, ’ and it prevents us from moving forward.

 

Step 6: Find the Cause – Once you complete the above, you can start to bounce back, and this begins with identifying the cause. If it could have been prevented, think about what you will do differently next time. As long as you grow from it, failure can actually be incredibly useful.

 

Step 7: Set Goals – What do you want to happen next? If you lost your job, how are you going to proceed from here? As long as you make these goals achievable, there is no reason why you can’t use the opportunity of losing your job to move into your dream career path finally. If possible, talk with others to create viable goals.

 

Step 8: Mental Contrasting – When envisioning all the success that will come, we often get blindsided which is why mental contrasting is important. Instead of just focusing on the perfect life, you also need to envision potential obstacles because then you can plan and appreciate how difficult the journey may be.

 

Step 9: Assess Your Approach – Now you have made mistakes, you know what you need to avoid the next time. Thomas Edison, creator, and inventor of the lightbulb, once said ‘I have not failed. I have just found 10,000 ways that won’t work’. If you can adopt this mindset, you won’t go far wrong.

 

Step 10: Keep Going – With a new goal and plan in place, you can try again and move towards your goal. Ultimately, life is a learning process because no person is born knowing everything. If you want to be the best, you have to learn at every opportunity!

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Succeed Even After Failing

To some people, failure can quite literally be the end of the world. They try to lead their lives as close to ‘perfection’ as possible and if something goes wrong, they have failed and they struggle to get over it. To them, it proves that they are human and that things can go wrong but this is something that they don’t like or enjoy.

 

If you are reading this so far whilst nodding along, you have to realise that this isn’t a healthy way to live. You have to realise that there are certain things in life that you simply cannot control and so things will go wrong from time to time. However, this doesn’t mean that you have some sort of problem that you have to fix. The most important thing about failure is how you deal with it; of course, the easiest thing to do is let it get you down and dwell on how badly you have failed. Although this is the easier method, it definitely isn’t the best one.

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The best way to deal with failure is to use it as an opportunity to learn; it gives you a chance to learn what you can do to improve so that you can do better the next time. Let’s say you have an interview for your dream job and you fail to get offered the role; you could be down and think ‘it’s all over’ OR you can find out where you went wrong and learn how to improve so you ensure you get the job next time. It is important to find out why you failed; in our example, did you fail because you failed to do enough research on the company? Was it because your resume wasn’t up to scratch? Whatever the reason for your failure, you can then treat it as a stepping stone towards growth to ensure it doesn’t happen again.

 

This is what’s known as ‘The Art of Failure’; knowing how to deal with failure is seen as an art because it can sometimes teach you more than success. If you want to succeed in life, you have to harness this power because you will be sure to hit some bumps along the way. If you find yourself failing often, see if there is a common denominator for your failure and find out how to fix it. Maybe it is your mindset; do you need to be more confident?

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As soon as you realise that failure can help you to learn and that you have the power to do so, overcoming a problem suddenly isn’t as hard as it seems. Once you breakdown exactly why you failed and work out solutions to this problem, your personal development will improve dramatically as not all people have this skill; you will suddenly set yourself apart from the rest of the crowd. Treat life like a journey and make sure that you take the hard times alongside the good times; if you ever fail at something, pick yourself up, dust yourself off, find out why you failed and improve in that area so you can continue on the road to success.

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5 Reasons Why You’re A failure

Thoughtful Tuesday #14 – 5 Reasons why you’re a failure

 

5 Reasons why you’re a failure

1. You just kinda want it

2. You listen to too much people

3. You’re scared to ask for help

4. You have no game plan

5. You don’t make a comeback

I hope you make immediate changes to position yourself to be a success 🙂 Contact me for any help. I’m here rooting for you 🙂

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Give up?

If I GIVE UP NOW,
that makes me weak
that makes me a failure
that proves everyone right
and myself wrong
So I will keep doing what I do best: PROGRESS

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