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Here’s how to Pull Through in Tough Situations

We all need a reminder on what to do when tough situations arise..

 

In life, there is going to be tough times. Whether you are currently going through something right now or are trying to prepare if something was to happen, shit will happen. However, there is something we can control – how we react. Ultimately, the key is often not to let the tough times get the better of you. Of course, the key question is – how do we do that?

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Accept that people make mistakes – When you think of tricky times you have been through before, it is likely to bring back anxiety and sadness. With this in mind, it means that you’re still attached and affected by some ideal. At first, it can be hard to notice this, but you have to if you want to move forward. If a family member hurt you, this still hurts because they aren’t supposed to do this (in theory). To progress, you have to notice this and then let it go. How? By realizing that every human makes mistakes and that, even though it hurts, it has to be accepted.

 

Be overly Grateful – Secondly, you must always find something to be grateful for in every single moment. When life kicks us to the ground, it can be hard to be grateful, but this is a powerful technique if you can master it correctly. How? Above all else, you have to live in the present because this is the only way you can recognize what’s in front of you. As soon as you do this, you can accept reality and make the best of a bad situation.

 

Judge much less – If you continue to judge something or someone, there is no way you will ever move on. If you still hold onto blame (even towards yourself), you have to let go of this judgment otherwise, the pain will stay with you for years to come. Even if you aren’t pleased with what happened, you can still relieve yourself of the burden by letting go of judgments. If you manage to do this, it doesn’t mean that you support what happened but rather you want to release the negativity and accept it to then move on.

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Attend to others – Finally, place your focus on someone else rather than thinking you are the center of the universe. By doing this, you are getting out of the ‘how does it affect me’ mindset. Once we have someone to focus on, we stop feeling sorry for ourselves and realize that we were over-worrying about something that isn’t important. Again, this will lead to a removal of negativity and will allow you to accept and move on.

 

As mentioned at the beginning, it is all about how we react and how we pick ourselves up from the ground. By following these simple tips, you will be putting yourself in the best possible position for happiness.

7 TIPS TO WELCOMING HAPPINESS TO YOUR LIFE

TRY THESE 7 TIPS TO RECLAIMING YOUR HAPPINESS

LIVE NOW! Self-betterment is not the path that should be taken in finding out our authenticity, but a dive into the heart of now. It happens to be that new choices can only be made in the present moment. All we need is the moment, for it is only in the present moment that we can acquire responsibilities for our emotional history and experience of life. Taking emotional responsibilities can be done by being present in the moment and help in dodging the dangers of blame and denial.

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ELIMINATE FALSE BELIEFS! False beliefs keep us stuck in life-constricting situations and prevent us from playing that great role in a production of our own. To get free from such subtle beliefs, we need to locate them and realize that, they are mere lies, although they have controlled our reactions for a long while. Reality and truth cannot be withstood by beliefs born of fear.

 

HEART x SOUL! The direct bridge to the Divine is our soul, and it is expressed in the heart. The abiding way to the heart of a genuine mystery is our soul. It is through the heart our soul communicates with all of the creation, and this expression is seen as love. The love in our soul that flows directly from the heart—not romantic love—is what allows us to gain the greatest form of human possibility by authentical living.

 

PATIENCE! A flash of illumination isn’t how self-awareness generally comes; instead, patience is required, for it does not speed that matters but the assimilation of wisdom. The road to self-awareness is not smooth and straight forward; it is a fluid progression of levels that carries an individual forward at a pace that is most exciting to them. What we must do is to individually experience the lessons for progress to take place, instead of understanding each stage individually.

 

TALK TRUTH!! The heart is the origin of honest communication, where the tree of infinite wisdom grows. Learning to openly show who we are and how we feel, regardless of the audience, in particular, is key. If we vibrantly express ourselves, the value of our own authenticity will be discovered. Entailed with the fearless articulation of the spirit is this authentic self-expression of the divine at our core.

 

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STOP FIXING WHAT IS NOT BROKEN! Accepting ourselves, along with everything and everyone in the Magical Theatre, is the key to unlocking awareness. Unlike passive resignation, acceptance is an act that gives us the ability to easily and with love, set ourselves free from attachment to event situations or outcomes. The ongoing approval means getting rid of the armor of defiance and believing in the intelligence of the Divine Mystery.

 

TAP INTO YOUR IMAGINATION! What is real? People in magical theaters tend to be more focused in setting emotional and physical standards that don’t work for everyone. The reality is everyone lives life and operates in a unique and somewhat indecipherable way. Knowing that what goes on in our minds and the emotions we feel sets the foundation of a static reality that can be of help for a lifetime is important.

 

Keep Your Distance From These Types of People

Look out for these 6 types of people to avoid becoming one of them..

In life, we are told to be happy because this can influence other people too. Does this mean it reflects in the opposite way? Yes, people around you will feel negative if you project it onto them. However, rather than looking at how you can affect people, we are going to look at how other people can influence you. For this reason, we have six types of people you should avoid if you want to keep the right mindset in life.

 

Note: The names used do not reflect real people, focus on removing the types of people not everyone you know with the names we will use!

 

Negative Nigel – Sooner or later, you will come across people who will only talk about the negative things in their life, and you need to keep your distance from them entirely. If you spend too much time around them, their negative mood will affect you and distract you from your goals.

 

Gossip Gloria – Some people just love to gossip, and although it is natural to a point, you should never spend your time with people who gossip all day long. Rather than focusing on other lives, focus on your own and you will make more progress.

 

Party Peter – now and then, we all need to spend some time away from work and let our hair down. However, this doesn’t mean that you need to go out every night. Not only will this drain your body and mind of all energy, but your wallet will also see the consequences. As soon as you can walk away from this type of person, you can start to introduce healthy habits like getting up early in the morning.

 

Judge Julia – At no point in your life should you feel as though someone is beneath you; for this reason, you need to be around people who don’t judge. Every person on this planet is unique, and so the only acts you should be questioning are your own; after all, these are the only ones you can control and change.

 

Complaining Carl – Just like the negative person we discussed previously, the complainer likes to whine about every little thing. From the weather to the price of a loaf of bread, they make it their life’s ambition to complain every day. If you fall into this habit, you will struggle to see the bright side of situations and your positive mindset will be gone.

 

Bully Brenda – Finally, you should also stay away from those who like to bully. Regardless of whether they are bullying you or someone else, you want to be around people that are genuinely pleasant and are happy not to change other people. Over time, they will change, and they will see that it is themselves with the problem, but you don’t have to be a part of this.

 

These are six types of people you should try and keep your distance from; if you can do this, you will be keeping all unnecessary negativity away from your life which will then allow you to stay positive and focus on growth and progress.

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Top 5 Things To Quit ASAP!

Let’s QUIT some of these things ASAP!!

In life, we are always being told what we should improve, and we like to give you all tips on what to include in your life when it comes to your mindset; however, what about things we need to quit? As well as bringing the positives, you also need to remove the negatives so here are our top five!

The Fear of Change – We like to be comfortable in life, and sometimes, that means sticking to the status quo. Although we tell ourselves ‘I can change anytime I want to,’ we don’t actually do it unless necessary. However, change can be a good thing, and it is something we should all embrace a bit more. If you are constantly doing the same things, how will you ever discover your hidden talents and potential?

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Keeping Everyone Happy – Whether at work or in your personal life, it is impossible to keep everyone happy so stop trying. Often, we agree to plans knowing that they will be disrupting our own plans, we give in to make people happy, we agree to things we really don’t want to do, and more. Sometimes, you just have to say ‘no’ and put yourself first for once. You will not be able to live life keeping everyone happy because while you spin all those plates, guess who won’t be happy…you!

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Thinking Too Much – One of the biggest factors that hold us all back are worries, and you need to learn to stop overthinking and instead, start taking action. For example, what is the point of being worried about failure? All that will do is guarantee that you won’t succeed because you won’t even try. If you try, at least you are giving it your best shot. We spend half our life worrying about what people might think, about failure, about our previous mistakes, but you need to overcome this to move forward.

Looking In The Rear-View Mirror – You would never drive a car looking in the rear-view mirror so why do we live our lives constantly looking backward? If you keep looking back at all the failures you have made, you will never have the opportunity to put it right and progress right now. What happened in the past has gone, there is no way you can change it so start looking at the now and the future instead.

Although we mainly choose to look back at failures, looking back at ‘what used to be’ can be equally damaging. Again, maybe you have had some good times but you need to focus on the now otherwise your future will suffer.

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Not Taking Credit – From a very early age, we are taught to be humble, and this is a great asset to have. However, when you have done something well, and you are receiving praise, enjoy the moment and take credit for your success. Of course, you need to remain humble to a point, but you still need to accept praise and be proud!

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Trusting the Process

‘It’s ok to not have the answer yet, continue your journey and trust the process’

 

This is a quote that should be said and listened to far more often than it is nowadays; we all want to find success whether it is in our personal lives, in our career, in a sports team, in absolutely anything and everything that we do. However, no matter how close we get, we tend to make the mistake of choosing the quickest journey to get there.

 

Sport is a fantastic place to witness this because it is experienced every single year all around the world; for example, basketball teams that go 3-1 up in the play-offs. For some reason, once they go one game away from winning the series, they start to play differently because they are looking for the quickest route of success. This was seen just recently as the Warriors came from 3-1 down to win the series 4-3 and go through to the finals. How did they do this? They trusted their ability, they trusted their preparation and they trusted the process.

 

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This should be taken advantage of every single day and used to get exactly what you want in your personal life as well as your career. If you have a goal for your career and you get close, don’t suddenly chase the quickest route of reaching your goal, trust the process and continue with what you have been doing. This process is clearly working so why would you risk changing it? Ultimately, it may take a bit longer but as long as you have the faith, it will happen.

 

Life is tough; there is always going to be somebody waiting around the corner ready to trip you up, there is always going to be a pitfall for you to get hurt by. As long as you put your trust in the process, you will be staying safe from these setbacks. This does require a certain personality and it can be hard to get used to because from the outside, it may look as though you aren’t making any progress but you will know that you are doing the right thing. Others will get frustrated and will become impatient which simply leads to failure.

 

This isn’t just a method that ‘could work’ or that ‘has potential’, this is proven and can help in a number of different areas of your life. People use this every single day whether they are trying to maintain a personal relationship, climb the proverbial ladder in their career, or even trying to lose weight when on a diet.

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As mentioned, this will not be easy. It may take daily reminders but in the long run, you can chase your dreams whilst believing in yourself, remaining focused and trusting the pr

BECOMING WHO YOU WANT TO BE

BECOMING WHO YOU WANT TO BE – My 3 Tips

Do you find yourself with a distinct lack of motivation to wake up in the morning? Have you ever looked in the mirror only to ask ‘how did I get here? This wasn’t the plan!’? The fact of the matter is;  your life is in your own hands and if you want to change it, only you have the tools to do so.

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Let’s start this off with a little exercise; where do you see yourself in five years time? It’s as simple as that, look ahead five years and notice what is different from your life now. You can then look ahead to how your life will be in five years if nothing changes. If the two are vastly different, you have to make some changes starting today.

 

 

Here are my 3 tips to become the person you want to be:

 

#1 Start Today – Let that exercise be the motivation to make a change today. If you find yourself in somewhat of a rut, whether it is due to work, relationships, location, or more, try to make it your goal to achieve that vision that you have for yourself in five years time.

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It is very easy to feel down after thinking about the plans that you had for your life and then to notice how none of them have been achieved but what good will this do? This still won’t allow you to achieve your goals so instead, feel motivated so that you don’t have the same conversation with yourself another five years down the line.

#2 Create A Vision – You should use the vision you just thought about to create an image of where you want to be in life. Don’t just think ‘I want money’, what do you want money for? Build a life for yourself and maybe even build a standard day for your future life. Try to include as much detail as possible such as sights, smells, where you are living, who you are living with, the tasks you have for the day ahead, etc.

 

#3 Repeat Daily – It is important not to lose sight of this vision because you have done this before and it has only led you to where you are now. It doesn’t mean you have to think of it every moment of the day but spend a minute or two building your vision and adding to it daily. This way you have a constant reminder of who you want to be and a thriving motivation to get there.

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Ultimately, life can be hard but with a small amount of time each day you can be whoever you want to be. This isn’t the same as dreaming because you will be building a vision of an achievable life. Also, it doesn’t matter if you get five years down the line and you aren’t living that vision; as long as you are still making progress towards it, it could take 7, 10 or even 15 years. The point is, you will get there.

Succeed Even After Failing

To some people, failure can quite literally be the end of the world. They try to lead their lives as close to ‘perfection’ as possible and if something goes wrong, they have failed and they struggle to get over it. To them, it proves that they are human and that things can go wrong but this is something that they don’t like or enjoy.

 

If you are reading this so far whilst nodding along, you have to realise that this isn’t a healthy way to live. You have to realise that there are certain things in life that you simply cannot control and so things will go wrong from time to time. However, this doesn’t mean that you have some sort of problem that you have to fix. The most important thing about failure is how you deal with it; of course, the easiest thing to do is let it get you down and dwell on how badly you have failed. Although this is the easier method, it definitely isn’t the best one.

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The best way to deal with failure is to use it as an opportunity to learn; it gives you a chance to learn what you can do to improve so that you can do better the next time. Let’s say you have an interview for your dream job and you fail to get offered the role; you could be down and think ‘it’s all over’ OR you can find out where you went wrong and learn how to improve so you ensure you get the job next time. It is important to find out why you failed; in our example, did you fail because you failed to do enough research on the company? Was it because your resume wasn’t up to scratch? Whatever the reason for your failure, you can then treat it as a stepping stone towards growth to ensure it doesn’t happen again.

 

This is what’s known as ‘The Art of Failure’; knowing how to deal with failure is seen as an art because it can sometimes teach you more than success. If you want to succeed in life, you have to harness this power because you will be sure to hit some bumps along the way. If you find yourself failing often, see if there is a common denominator for your failure and find out how to fix it. Maybe it is your mindset; do you need to be more confident?

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As soon as you realise that failure can help you to learn and that you have the power to do so, overcoming a problem suddenly isn’t as hard as it seems. Once you breakdown exactly why you failed and work out solutions to this problem, your personal development will improve dramatically as not all people have this skill; you will suddenly set yourself apart from the rest of the crowd. Treat life like a journey and make sure that you take the hard times alongside the good times; if you ever fail at something, pick yourself up, dust yourself off, find out why you failed and improve in that area so you can continue on the road to success.

How to rise and grind – every day!

How to RISE and GRIND – every day!

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Wake up and give the biggest smile you can make.

 

Open your window and smile at the sun. Feel your cheek muscles hurting.

 

Blink slowly 10 times. Keep smiling.

 

Think about having an amazing day full of joy!

 

Do your morning routine with your favorite upbeat song playing!
Be enthusiastic about what needs to be done today.
Work hard today. Live hard today. Achieve what you want with intensity.

 

Grind as hard as you can.
Whenever you are in a bad mood or about to abandoned something find a reason why you feel the way you do.

 

Accept it or let go of a thing.

 

Think of the future. Be about the future.

 

Empower yourself: you are the key to your own success and happiness like the cherry on top of the world.

 

Rise and grind – every day!