THE SIMPLICITY OF LIFE

A simple life is a good life..

Most people think that life is hard. One of the major issues we have is that we want to know the possibilities of every decision we make. We like to have the solution to anything we do before we begin. But then again, life is not as complex as we make it to be; it is elementary, especially when you dealing with things right away. To find your own path, and embrace life, the following principles below will do you a lot of good;

  • Trust the process
  • Don’t resist
  • Listen to your friend

We have what it takes inside of us to get the life that we want. We have the potential for us to get what we want. Thus the question, we are me so mediocre?

Programming

We’ve all been programmed to think and act in a particular way. To get the life that we want, we first have to rid ourselves of our limiting vision, and distractions. It is only when we do this that you can see real-life opportunities in front of you. Detach yourself from your past, and embrace what is in front of you.

Live in the present, and not in the past. Use your critical thinking to make the right decisions that will help you unleash your true power. This will allow you to make the right decisions on a consistent basis.

Fear

We are guided by fear without even knowing it. There are lots of fears that we operate on. Some of these fears include; fear of regrets, unknown, success/failure, unknown, and lots more.

Don’t allow fear to control your decision making; it will only lead you into making the wrong decision. Don’t be afraid to take risks. On your part to personal growth, and freedom, you will need to take lots of risk-taking actions, and they do not require fear.

Overthinking

An invincible force controls the world. Some refer to it as God, others refer to it as the universal mind and so on. We can all tap into this force using our mind. Create the vision with the mind, and then have the faith it will come to pass. As long as you can believe it, you can achieve it. Never limit yourself because of your surroundings, and what people say about you.

Risk Aversion

The greatest achievers in the world have all started by taking risks and stepping out of their comfort zone. Don’t over think it, as long as you feel it is the right thing to do, go ahead and do it.

As long as what you want to do aligns with who you really are, the universe makes provisions for it to come to pass.

Absence of self-awareness

What brings everything we’ve said into actualization is self-awareness. In the absence of it, you will be controlled by your fears.

Understand that you are a person on a course to achieve greatness. Don’t look at the past, look at yourself now, and see the direction you headed.

 

WHY PEOPLE CHANGE AND 3 PAINLESS WAYS YOU CAN CHANGE TOO

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In the world today, one common belief is that people can’t change their character and attitude. What most people believe is that once you have a specific attitude or character, it stays with you all through your life. Such a belief system is flawed, and it is very far from the truth.

Everything in life is either creating or disintegrating, and this is a universal law that everything on earth follows including your attitude and character. So, in other words, your character or attitude can change if you want them to. The main reason why most individuals conform to a certain ideology is because of their habits. Put simply; a habit is a predetermined action that is carried out without any conscious mental efforts. This specific action has become a permanent fixture in our lives, that it just happens on its own whether or not we give any thought to it.

Our habits help us to manage life unconsciously. We become dependent on them that we rely on them to control our lives. This is the reason why several people believe that they cannot change no matter what happens. Such people believe that their habits define who they are. But you have to realize that your habit is only as strong as how you make them to be.

You can change your attitude this instance if you are willing to change, and we’ve identified three ways via which you can implement the change that you seek;

Create a new habit
This is where it starts from, if you intend to change your attitude, you first have to change your habits that form the foundation of that attitude. Pick a habit that you want to change, and consciously work your way to seeing that it changes. If the habit you want to change is lateness to meetings, then start arriving 30 minutes earlier.

 

Think different thoughts
If you want to change your life, first start by changing your thoughts. If you continuously focus on negative thoughts, you will usually attract negative actions into your life. The best way to live is to focus on positive thoughts constantly. When you change your thinking, you will see that your life will change as well because your mind has been reoriented from a flawed thought process to a more productive one.

 

Take on a new perspective
The way you see things affects the thoughts you have about such things. You give meaning to things based on how you perceive them. So, if you want to change your attitude or character, you can start by changing the way you view things.

 

Change can be instantaneous, and if you want to change your attitude and character, you can do so at this minute. You just have to decide first that you want to change, and ensure you commit to it. Continuously implement the new attitude you are learning, and in no time, your old attitude will be a thing of the past. Form a laser-focused mindset by joining menstrong.com today!

HOW TO ENJOY LIFE

Life is a summation of how we spend our days. It is the journey itself, and not necessarily the destination that life is all about. Enjoying your life is a task that you have to take upon yourself, but often, many folks have a misalignment on what it takes to actually enjoy life.

If you are to ask a random selection of people what their definition of “enjoying life” is all about, you will get answers such as; going on a ship cruise, candlelit dinners, beaches, and other peak-enjoyment activities.

A simple Google search on “how to enjoy life” will bring about almost similar results as those mentioned above, and this puts it into context people’s expectations on what it really takes to enjoy life, and the reality of things.

In all honesty, enjoying life isn’t an ambiguous task, and it is undoubtedly not herculean either. Persons often see it as an enigma, and quite frankly as something that can only be enjoyed by a set of persons under certain circumstances, but such crude judgment is usually flawed in every sense.

One doesn’t need the most significant things to enjoy life, but with just the smallest can set you on the part of happiness and enjoyment.

See it this way; you spend the bulk part of your life engaged in one small task or the other like doing the dishes, laundry, office work and so on. These small maintenance activities often look unremarkable and unenjoyable, but the reality is that you spend most of your time engaged in them, so it, therefore, means that if you are to enjoy life in its fullest, it doesn’t have to be in one dream vacation getaway but in the little things that we do on a daily basis.

You already know what it takes to enjoy those moments, look back at those times you prepared yourself a good home cooked meal, and the sense of satisfaction and pride that comes with, that’s where the pleasure lies, and in all honesty, that sense of enjoyment is freely available in most things.

Here is the hack on how to derive enjoyment out of every moment, it all relies on your intention. As long as the intention is present, you will find pleasure and enjoyment out of the dullest of the task. A simple intention to derive enjoyment in a task set before you irrespective of how dull or exciting it seems is more than enough to project enjoyable qualities.

You might ask yourself in what way can I enjoy cleaning the attic or standing in line at the DMV. But the truth is there is so much to enjoy, after all, enjoyment is from the inside out, so even if it is mild, as long as the intention is there, you will surely enjoy yourself in every setting

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Life is the summation of the small moments we spend, to enjoy it, you have to look from within, and have that intention to find pleasure in all moments whether big and small.

Find absolute power in Commitment and reach your goals

You need commitment! #simple

Mention commitment in a sentence, and you’ll have most guys and girls thinking of relationships and marriages.

But that’s not what we are going to do today. We are going to discuss how commitment can change your life.

I chose ‘commitment,’ and it turned my life around. I committed to a noble cause, the cause of removing all disempowering and toxic habits from my life.

It hasn’t been that long, but I noticed how much cutting myself from these habits has empowered me.

In the beginning, these commitments seemed hard. So naturally, I looked for support and joined some online groups. I found that we were all in this together and I had come a long way to give up now.

Don’t break

I have often read people saying that if you fail once, don’t stop, keep trying.

But think of this way: What if I follow a no-carb diet but slip and eat a cheeseburger on the 11th day? A guilty me would go back to the no-carb diet post the slip but what if I slip again?

You can’t take a break from your commitments on weekends or every 10 days. There are no vacations from commitments.

Slipping, following the routine, slipping again, back to the routine; no that doesn’t work. What do you think this vicious and perpetual cycle of slipping and routine will do?

Keep you from reaching your goals.

You or I don’t have to be so hard on ourselves because we slipped. But we can’t move over and over again.

Nor should we accept these little failures and motivate ourselves to move past them. No, don’t hold on to them but commit to never fail like that.

The key is to accept commitment wholeheartedly and never cave into the temptations.

Say no to almost  

No one likes scoring the second position. So, why accept the almost everything.

Would you eat an almost cooked steak? Then why accept almost successful?

Commitment is scary. But the lack of commitment is what’s keeping you and me from getting where we want to be.

You must be strong, and you will find absolute power in commitment.

 

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THESE 3 THINGS WILL DRAMATICALLY CHANGE YOUR LIFE

There are several things you could do that will dramatically add some meaning to your life.

Outlined below are 3 things that will dramatically change your life once you start doing them.

 

#1 CREATE SOME BOUNDARIES AND ABIDE BY THEM zone - iwontlose
Create some personal boundaries, and ensure you abide by these boundaries. Do not create boundaries and fail to take responsibility for your actions, and do not create boundaries and take responsibility when other people misbehave. It would be ideal to make people understand that once you have set some boundaries, you would do anything within your powers to abide by these set boundaries.
Firm personal boundaries are vital because they tend to improve one’s self-esteem, happiness, reduce anxiety and stress. With your boundaries set, you would certainly get a life that is pretty much aligned closer to your priorities and that that of others. Additionally, you would be able to make your decisions based on your priorities. To ensure your boundaries aren’t weak, ensure you do not take too much responsibility for peoples actions and emotions and do not expect other people to take too much responsibility for your emotion and actions.
When you take on people’s responsibility, emotions and behaviors, all you are doing are trying to seek their love, approval, attention, and affection.

 

#2 BUILD A BODY YOU’RE CONFIDENT IN

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Research has it that humans tend to behave better once they feel confident in themselves. I’m a firm believer in this scientific axiom, and I can eloquently attest to the fact that whenever I feel sure, all other aspects of my life feel better. Over the past few years, I have been opportune to deal with clients who think less of themselves, and after counseling them, they become more confident, more interesting, and they feel like trying out things they thought they could never do before and lots more.
With all that being said, I guess it’s high time we looked at the grand strategy you could adapt to building some reasonable confidence in you.

 

Here’s how to do it:

Step 1: Identify what kind of body makes you proud
What kind of body makes you proud? What can you do with this body when you finally got it? You alone should be able to determine if your perfect body is just a body with some level of fitness, or a body similar to those of wrestlers, or those usually seen on magazine covers. Your ability to identify the kind of body that makes you proud is your first step in being confident.

Step 2: Identify the tradeoffs attached to getting that body you wish for
For instance, a good number of people love the idea of having six-pack abs, with some 90% percentage detesting what it takes to achieve these abs. As a result of this, these people have resulted in other alternative media to consume these belle fats by:
Passing some happy hours with your friends.
Getting to bed earlier.
Not eating late at night.

Placing themselves on diets.
Identifying these tradeoffs would go along way in assisting you.

 

Step 3: Derive simple strategies for creating this body
Most often it takes a lot of hard work to achieve success. Well, success doesn’t only come through hard work and perseverance; you could also achieve this through motivation, discipline and most importantly by deriving simple strategies. Derive simple strategies that will assist you in creating that body which you crave for. Similar to achieving set goals, building a body you are going to be proud of would certainly require some consistency, patience, and persistence.

 

#3 CREATE A DAILY ROUTINE AND STICK TO ITroutine
Creating a daily routine isn’t just enough, but sticking to this routine is a lot better. Routine builds character. Pick positive tasks that will benefit you in the long run, for example:

7:00 am – workout

6:00 pm – dinner with the family

Also, chill out from doing everything!

 

What are some other things you’re doing in your life that are positively impacting you? let us know! Don’t forget to subscribe to our newsletter for all the exclusive content from iwontlose.com

HOW TO FIGHT DEPRESSION AND A LACK OF MOTIVATION!

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Despite all the technology we’ve seen in recent years, there’s one thing we continue trying to understand; the human mind. Over the course of decades, we put our all into learning everything there is to know about ourselves and other people only to feel surprised when something unexpected happens.

For example, the stresses of life can sometimes get the better of us, and this leads to the death of creativity, productivity, and opportunities to meet up with loved ones and friends. If you can relate to any of this, you aren’t alone because millions feel demotivated or depressed every single day. With so many pressures in the world, there are numerous reasons one may feel depressed including financial worries, illness, work, failed relationships, or even extreme jealousy of others.

Areas of Depression and Demotivation

Unfortunately, dealing with the issue isn’t quite as easy as it sounds because demotivation and depression feed off each other and it eventually becomes a spiral of negativity. However, we have some of the very best tips below.

Professional Goals – According to a recent report, fewer than 25% of people in the world feel as though they’ve achieved professional goals. Considering our career takes up a huge part of our lives, we instantly feel like a failure when we aren’t successful in our jobs. Over time, we lose passion and energy for work, and we get stuck in an endless loop.

As simple as it sounds, you’re in charge of your life so change your job as soon as possible. Even if you start on a smaller wage, you need to be happy in life, so it makes sense to lose the job keeping you unhappy.

Societal Pressures – Every day, we try to live up to the expectations of society even though the bar seems obsessively high. If you keep dressing in a certain way, aim to earn a certain salary, or even just act in a certain way, you aren’t true to yourself. Instead, you need to be happy with who you are because the key factor that will earn the respect of others is actually self-respect.

Family Life – As well as putting you under pressure, your family are likely to compare you to ‘successful cousins’ or siblings, and this can be tough to take. Once again, you need to continue on your own path but just explain your goals to your family. If they can’t respect this, you simply rise above it and keep that self-respect.

Tips for Fighting Depression and Demotivation

Exercise – Although it’s been said millions of times, exercise really is a fantastic way to boost your physical and mental energy. By releasing endorphins, a positive feeling will spend throughout your body and mind. Often, when we say the word ‘exercise,’ people think of long hours on the treadmill, but this doesn’t have to be the case. Why don’t you find something you enjoy? For example, you could play badminton with friends or boxing to improve your stamina.

Read – As long as you choose a good book you can really sink your teeth into, reading is a great way to forget about life for a while and enter a fictional world.

Communication – Finally, talk about your feelings to other people. Although you’re probably shaking your head on this one already, you need to connect to those around you and talking about your feelings is the only way to do this. Once people see what’s happening from your perspective, they’ll be more understanding and supportive moving forward.

Remember, nobody in the world will ever have to spend as much time with you…than you. No matter what happens, you’re in charge, and you should always feel comfortable in your own skin!

Do You Feel Like a Winner? Here’s Why Most Don’t

Although it might not feel like it right now, you are the only one with enough control in your life to make a difference. If you aren’t winning right now, it normally comes from a lack of belief or control, but this is something we’re going to fix today. Below, we’ve listed eight key reasons why you aren’t winning and how to fix them!

Focusing on the Negatives – If you hold a dinner party and eight people had a great time while one didn’t enjoy themselves, which do you focus on? For most of us, we would dwell on the one person who didn’t have a good time, and this is because we tend to be perfectionists. Since this mindset can be quite damaging, we want you to start looking at the positives instead by pulling them into perspective. Sure, you might be able to learn from the negatives, but the positives should always be your motivation.

Wrong ‘Friends’ – For some reason, we get into the habit of spending time with people we don’t trust or even like. If you continue to spend time with people who bring you down, you’ll never be able to stand strong so cut them from your life. Sure, they might realize the error of their ways in the time to come but, for now, you should be surrounding yourself with people who support your journey.

Playing Poorly – If you have no goals and no purpose in life, you aren’t even playing to win. Whenever you have no plan or goals, you simply ride the waves that come your way without achieving any dreams that might be lying underneath. Why don’t you find your passion, set some goals, and really make a push for your dreams?

Lying to Yourself – If you cannot be honest with yourself, becoming a winner will be the hardest thing you’ll ever do. Instead of making excuses and blaming the circumstances, turn things in your favor and be honest with yourself. If you can account for it, you can control it.

Instant Rewards – Whenever you feel gratification for your intentions, you no longer require the gratification for completing the task, and this is a huge issue. Suddenly, you don’t put in the work because you feel as though you’ve had all that will come of it. If you want real results, you don’t need to tell the world where you go; just show them when you’re there.

Lacking the Follow Through – When you make decisions regarding your personal life or career, this is great, but you then need to see them through. If farmers decided to plant crops this year but didn’t actually work on them after planting, they would have nothing to show at the end. Although it might be hard work, you need to give your all to make your plans happen.

Subconscious – No matter how many positive thoughts you have, your subconscious slowly breaks these down with its own negative opinions. For example, you might have a dream to own a specific car. Suddenly, your subconscious says ‘I’ll never have the money.’. If your subconscious limits your dreams, you’ll never be the winner you desire.

Looking for Issues – Finally, another problem we see far too often is people looking for problems. Sadly, their mindset is so negative they wake up and look for the problems to come whether it’s the boss, broken car, or something simple like gone-off milk. Instead, you should be thinking the other way around; life is positive, and the negatives are short-lived experiences to help you grow!

THIS IS WHY YOUR LIFE SUCKS!

LIFE CAN REALLY SUCK!

Whatever we spend the most effort and time on gives yourself the highest chance of achieving it. Our minds are such a powerful weapon which we can either use to our advantage or for our destruction. It is what we think that we become in reality, this means that we become our thoughts.

Therefore our thoughts might be the sole reason why you might not be successful at what you do right now, so you need to own it up now that it has been your thoughts that are holding you back.

Thoughts are just one reason why you are not winning yet. Therefore I made a list of 6 reasons which might be the backbone of your current failure. 

1. You Keep Looking At The Negatives.

Not being optimistic can kill and ruin your whole effort towards winning. Your inability to look beyond what you see has been hindering you from making progress. You have to look beyond what you see, look past your obstacles and hindrances and focus clearly on that goal you are about achieving. Assure yourself from time to time that your success is sure. The moment you start thinking negatively about the things life has to offer, how unfair it has been so far you will just be depriving yourself of achieving your dreams.

Successful people don’t let the thoughts of negative things control them they create an enabling environment in their heads to be able to see the world they are to create In the future. Be conscious of your thoughts, they become a reality, be positive in your thinking.

2. You are only playing for the sake of playing without your eyes on the prize.

Socrates said that an unexamined life is not worth living. Living a life without purpose, a life without much reflection, a life without a plan has been the most contributing factor to people’s failure. Every man on earth has to search out his purpose of being in the land if not he/she will just be living like the birds. A principled man with a clear plan in life does not follow the trend; he creates his path to follow.

A situation of an unexamined life is a total disaster, how can an individual who strives to succeed in the banking sector instead of attending a business seminar, chooses to party excessively. Such a person will never succeed unless he/she changes the mindset and sets his eyes on achieving his plan here on earth.

Self-discovery is key to making sure you are not just playing to play. The moment you discover your purpose in life and make a decision to achieve the success you will be on your way to win. But you have to step out of your comfort zone, nothing good comes easy they say. Therefore laziness is out of the question, for now, work out of the average and strive to get better at what you do.

You have to take time and examine the life you are living, ask yourself:

what I am doing right now, am I good at it?

Is it what I should be doing right now?

At this stage in my life, what is holding me back?

What can I do to better my situation?

Only when you answer these questions, will you be able to make progress. Remember if you plan to succeed you have designed to fail.

 

3. You Lack Follow Through

Procrastination is the bedrock of failure. Unsuccessful people have one thing in common which is procrastination. When you don’t make that choice to take actions towards achieving your dreams, you are bound to fail. To avoid failure, you have to take up the responsibility and be committed to whatever you do.

You will never be successful if you don’t follow one cause and see it to success. You have to take up one thing and do it until the point of success. Don’t be the jack of all trade and master of none.

 

4.  You keep dangerous and untrustworthy friends

Show me your friends, and I will tell you who you are. Wrong people in your life might be what has been part of why you are not winning. If you discover people that you call your friends are not friendly to your goals and hinder your success why do you still keep them?

As long as you keep individuals that hinder your success around you will likely not be successful. Stop spending time with wrong people rather, mingle with people who share the same dream with you and will help you achieve it. If a close family of yours that you can’t cut ties completely then limit how much time you give to them.  If you do this, then you will win and will always be on top of your game.

 

5. You desire shortcuts to success.

All desire heaven, but only a few are willing to work and die to make it to that heaven. The same applies to success and winning in many spheres of life. People desire success but few are ready to work and wait to reap the fruits of hard work. Many want to find the easiest way or shortcut to make it in life, but that is not how it works. If you want to stay winning you simply have to work towards it and be patient enough and consistent till your effort pays off. Those who take the shortcut to success typically end up at the same spot they took up from and will continue in that cycle till they decide to do the right thing – WORK HARD!

6. You wake up looking for pain and problems

Don’t wake up in the morning always expecting bad things to happen, or having a negative feeling that you will not achieve anything today.

Please learn to be positive when you wake up in the morning.Tell yourself that today is going to be a good day, Asure yourself that ou will achieve great things today. Love what you do and go out to work towards achieving set goals.

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3 Simple Ways to Set Yourself Up For Success in 2017

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We reach that time of year again where self-assessment and reflection are at an all-time high. As we head into 2017, we start to assess our goals and decide whether we are truly happy in life or whether changes need to be made. If you choose to progress in your current industry or push towards a new career, we have three simple ways of setting yourself up for success.

 

Set a Plan – Of course, this time of year is synonymous with setting so-called ‘New Year’s Resolutions’ but how successful are these aims? According to a recent study, less than 10% of people feel as though they were successful with their resolution come December. To go further, only 58% of resolutions remain in place after just one month. Why is this the case?

 

In most cases, the failure comes because there is a real lack of planning. When deciding on your goals for 2017, you need to work out exactly how you plan to get there otherwise there is no point in the first place. Would you plan a holiday without planning how to get there? When planning, remember daily, weekly, and monthly actions you can take to progress towards your goals. However, never let planning get in the way of starting the journey.

 

Simplicity is Key – Rather than setting many different goals and getting confused so that, by the end of the year, no progress is made, try to set just one goal for each area of your life. In life, it is always good to have many different ambitions but you will see much better results as soon as you slow down and focus on one goal at a time.

 

For many, quitting smoking is one of the main goals of the year and one simple way to move towards that aim is to calculate what money is currently being spent on the habit and where that money could go if you were to quit. For example, if you have children, it could be put towards a holiday or new toys and clothes. In all areas of your goal-setting, simplicity is key and this should come together with your planning seen in the first tip. Rather than creating difficult and confusing plans, keep things simple and take one small step at a time.

 

Don’t Forget Balance – Having a plan and setting goals is all well and good but this doesn’t mean that we should completely forget other areas of life. In truth, balance should be one of the most important targets that you have this year because we need it for that one word we have used throughout – success.

 

For example, a lack of balance can be seen in many areas of life but commonly in the gym. Have you ever seen a bulky guy in the gym that creates a sense of intimidation just by walking around with huge arms, chest, and shoulders? To see whether they have correct balance, take a glance down at their legs. Sadly, many work too hard on the upper body and leave the legs behind which makes them look like a cartoon character with stick legs. Essentially, this is a brilliant metaphor for life so you need to remember all areas of life and don’t let one fall behind. If your career is going well, don’t forget to take some time to maintain your personal relationships. Every so often, take a step back and reassess to ensure that you remain on the right path.

 

Summary – With these three simple tips, you can set yourself up for success in 2017. Rather than setting a ‘resolution’ this month, why not set some goals and a plan to make sure that you really do succeed in 2017?

Keep Your Distance From These Types of People

Look out for these 6 types of people to avoid becoming one of them..

In life, we are told to be happy because this can influence other people too. Does this mean it reflects in the opposite way? Yes, people around you will feel negative if you project it onto them. However, rather than looking at how you can affect people, we are going to look at how other people can influence you. For this reason, we have six types of people you should avoid if you want to keep the right mindset in life.

 

Note: The names used do not reflect real people, focus on removing the types of people not everyone you know with the names we will use!

 

Negative Nigel – Sooner or later, you will come across people who will only talk about the negative things in their life, and you need to keep your distance from them entirely. If you spend too much time around them, their negative mood will affect you and distract you from your goals.

 

Gossip Gloria – Some people just love to gossip, and although it is natural to a point, you should never spend your time with people who gossip all day long. Rather than focusing on other lives, focus on your own and you will make more progress.

 

Party Peter – now and then, we all need to spend some time away from work and let our hair down. However, this doesn’t mean that you need to go out every night. Not only will this drain your body and mind of all energy, but your wallet will also see the consequences. As soon as you can walk away from this type of person, you can start to introduce healthy habits like getting up early in the morning.

 

Judge Julia – At no point in your life should you feel as though someone is beneath you; for this reason, you need to be around people who don’t judge. Every person on this planet is unique, and so the only acts you should be questioning are your own; after all, these are the only ones you can control and change.

 

Complaining Carl – Just like the negative person we discussed previously, the complainer likes to whine about every little thing. From the weather to the price of a loaf of bread, they make it their life’s ambition to complain every day. If you fall into this habit, you will struggle to see the bright side of situations and your positive mindset will be gone.

 

Bully Brenda – Finally, you should also stay away from those who like to bully. Regardless of whether they are bullying you or someone else, you want to be around people that are genuinely pleasant and are happy not to change other people. Over time, they will change, and they will see that it is themselves with the problem, but you don’t have to be a part of this.

 

These are six types of people you should try and keep your distance from; if you can do this, you will be keeping all unnecessary negativity away from your life which will then allow you to stay positive and focus on growth and progress.

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TAKING EVERYTHING PERSONAL PREVENTS SELF-GROWTH!

Don’t take it personal, it’s all personal..

Ever since we were young, we would be told ‘not to take things personally’ but this is one of those things that is easier said than done. No matter how hard we try, we can’t help taking things personally because everything in life can be seen as ‘personal.’ When someone comments on anything about us, it is a comment on a personal level. However, there is one big factor that we forget – perspective.

In truth, perspective is something that we always need to be aware of if we aren’t going to let things get us down. As we go through life, we have a system of set opinions and beliefs, and when we come across someone new, we expect them to be the same (or at least see things from our perspective). However, this doesn’t happen, and it can lead to problems. Because we don’t all have the same vantage point in life, we all offer different perspectives and opinions. If we all had the same viewpoint, life would be boring because everyone would agree with everything you ever said and did.

If we look at your personal life, it is the same because you have a perception of how you look, how you act, how people think you act, and how you compare to others. When someone steps up and tells you something different, it is easy to get offended. However, they have been brought up and have gone through life with the same process as you…but with completely different perceptions.

With this in mind, you have to build a resistance and transform your ego into something more solid. If you let go of your ego and your preconceived beliefs, you will be happier to ‘go with the flow’ and be unaffected by what’s going on around you. When you take something personally, this is feeding your ego and making your perceptions stronger, but it won’t allow you to be free when it really matters. We have all developed an ego-based self-image, and it damages friendships and relationships every single day; to prevent this, you have to let go of your ego and be free.

If you allow yourself to open up to the experiences life has to offer, there is no way that this resistance or fear can influence your decisions. If you decide that not every situation has a person to blame or something to judge, you will be free to move down your path with grace. Why? Because you will be embracing who you are rather than putting up a shield that prevents people from getting close. This brick wall that has been sitting in between you and others will be removed, and there will be nothing to take personally. As soon as you open yourself up, you will find your path in life and decisions suddenly become a lot easier because you are…yourself.