THIS IS WHY YOUR LIFE SUCKS!

LIFE CAN REALLY SUCK!

Whatever we spend the most effort and time on gives yourself the highest chance of achieving it. Our minds are such a powerful weapon which we can either use to our advantage or for our destruction. It is what we think that we become in reality, this means that we become our thoughts.

Therefore our thoughts might be the sole reason why you might not be successful at what you do right now, so you need to own it up now that it has been your thoughts that are holding you back.

Thoughts are just one reason why you are not winning yet. Therefore I made a list of 6 reasons which might be the backbone of your current failure. 

1. You Keep Looking At The Negatives.

Not being optimistic can kill and ruin your whole effort towards winning. Your inability to look beyond what you see has been hindering you from making progress. You have to look beyond what you see, look past your obstacles and hindrances and focus clearly on that goal you are about achieving. Assure yourself from time to time that your success is sure. The moment you start thinking negatively about the things life has to offer, how unfair it has been so far you will just be depriving yourself of achieving your dreams.

Successful people don’t let the thoughts of negative things control them they create an enabling environment in their heads to be able to see the world they are to create In the future. Be conscious of your thoughts, they become a reality, be positive in your thinking.

2. You are only playing for the sake of playing without your eyes on the prize.

Socrates said that an unexamined life is not worth living. Living a life without purpose, a life without much reflection, a life without a plan has been the most contributing factor to people’s failure. Every man on earth has to search out his purpose of being in the land if not he/she will just be living like the birds. A principled man with a clear plan in life does not follow the trend; he creates his path to follow.

A situation of an unexamined life is a total disaster, how can an individual who strives to succeed in the banking sector instead of attending a business seminar, chooses to party excessively. Such a person will never succeed unless he/she changes the mindset and sets his eyes on achieving his plan here on earth.

Self-discovery is key to making sure you are not just playing to play. The moment you discover your purpose in life and make a decision to achieve the success you will be on your way to win. But you have to step out of your comfort zone, nothing good comes easy they say. Therefore laziness is out of the question, for now, work out of the average and strive to get better at what you do.

You have to take time and examine the life you are living, ask yourself:

what I am doing right now, am I good at it?

Is it what I should be doing right now?

At this stage in my life, what is holding me back?

What can I do to better my situation?

Only when you answer these questions, will you be able to make progress. Remember if you plan to succeed you have designed to fail.

 

3. You Lack Follow Through

Procrastination is the bedrock of failure. Unsuccessful people have one thing in common which is procrastination. When you don’t make that choice to take actions towards achieving your dreams, you are bound to fail. To avoid failure, you have to take up the responsibility and be committed to whatever you do.

You will never be successful if you don’t follow one cause and see it to success. You have to take up one thing and do it until the point of success. Don’t be the jack of all trade and master of none.

 

4.  You keep dangerous and untrustworthy friends

Show me your friends, and I will tell you who you are. Wrong people in your life might be what has been part of why you are not winning. If you discover people that you call your friends are not friendly to your goals and hinder your success why do you still keep them?

As long as you keep individuals that hinder your success around you will likely not be successful. Stop spending time with wrong people rather, mingle with people who share the same dream with you and will help you achieve it. If a close family of yours that you can’t cut ties completely then limit how much time you give to them.  If you do this, then you will win and will always be on top of your game.

 

5. You desire shortcuts to success.

All desire heaven, but only a few are willing to work and die to make it to that heaven. The same applies to success and winning in many spheres of life. People desire success but few are ready to work and wait to reap the fruits of hard work. Many want to find the easiest way or shortcut to make it in life, but that is not how it works. If you want to stay winning you simply have to work towards it and be patient enough and consistent till your effort pays off. Those who take the shortcut to success typically end up at the same spot they took up from and will continue in that cycle till they decide to do the right thing – WORK HARD!

6. You wake up looking for pain and problems

Don’t wake up in the morning always expecting bad things to happen, or having a negative feeling that you will not achieve anything today.

Please learn to be positive when you wake up in the morning.Tell yourself that today is going to be a good day, Asure yourself that ou will achieve great things today. Love what you do and go out to work towards achieving set goals.

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3 Simple Ways to Set Yourself Up For Success in 2017

2017 

We reach that time of year again where self-assessment and reflection are at an all-time high. As we head into 2017, we start to assess our goals and decide whether we are truly happy in life or whether changes need to be made. If you choose to progress in your current industry or push towards a new career, we have three simple ways of setting yourself up for success.

 

Set a Plan – Of course, this time of year is synonymous with setting so-called ‘New Year’s Resolutions’ but how successful are these aims? According to a recent study, less than 10% of people feel as though they were successful with their resolution come December. To go further, only 58% of resolutions remain in place after just one month. Why is this the case?

 

In most cases, the failure comes because there is a real lack of planning. When deciding on your goals for 2017, you need to work out exactly how you plan to get there otherwise there is no point in the first place. Would you plan a holiday without planning how to get there? When planning, remember daily, weekly, and monthly actions you can take to progress towards your goals. However, never let planning get in the way of starting the journey.

 

Simplicity is Key – Rather than setting many different goals and getting confused so that, by the end of the year, no progress is made, try to set just one goal for each area of your life. In life, it is always good to have many different ambitions but you will see much better results as soon as you slow down and focus on one goal at a time.

 

For many, quitting smoking is one of the main goals of the year and one simple way to move towards that aim is to calculate what money is currently being spent on the habit and where that money could go if you were to quit. For example, if you have children, it could be put towards a holiday or new toys and clothes. In all areas of your goal-setting, simplicity is key and this should come together with your planning seen in the first tip. Rather than creating difficult and confusing plans, keep things simple and take one small step at a time.

 

Don’t Forget Balance – Having a plan and setting goals is all well and good but this doesn’t mean that we should completely forget other areas of life. In truth, balance should be one of the most important targets that you have this year because we need it for that one word we have used throughout – success.

 

For example, a lack of balance can be seen in many areas of life but commonly in the gym. Have you ever seen a bulky guy in the gym that creates a sense of intimidation just by walking around with huge arms, chest, and shoulders? To see whether they have correct balance, take a glance down at their legs. Sadly, many work too hard on the upper body and leave the legs behind which makes them look like a cartoon character with stick legs. Essentially, this is a brilliant metaphor for life so you need to remember all areas of life and don’t let one fall behind. If your career is going well, don’t forget to take some time to maintain your personal relationships. Every so often, take a step back and reassess to ensure that you remain on the right path.

 

Summary – With these three simple tips, you can set yourself up for success in 2017. Rather than setting a ‘resolution’ this month, why not set some goals and a plan to make sure that you really do succeed in 2017?

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Keep Your Distance From These Types of People

Look out for these 6 types of people to avoid becoming one of them..

In life, we are told to be happy because this can influence other people too. Does this mean it reflects in the opposite way? Yes, people around you will feel negative if you project it onto them. However, rather than looking at how you can affect people, we are going to look at how other people can influence you. For this reason, we have six types of people you should avoid if you want to keep the right mindset in life.

 

Note: The names used do not reflect real people, focus on removing the types of people not everyone you know with the names we will use!

 

Negative Nigel – Sooner or later, you will come across people who will only talk about the negative things in their life, and you need to keep your distance from them entirely. If you spend too much time around them, their negative mood will affect you and distract you from your goals.

 

Gossip Gloria – Some people just love to gossip, and although it is natural to a point, you should never spend your time with people who gossip all day long. Rather than focusing on other lives, focus on your own and you will make more progress.

 

Party Peter – now and then, we all need to spend some time away from work and let our hair down. However, this doesn’t mean that you need to go out every night. Not only will this drain your body and mind of all energy, but your wallet will also see the consequences. As soon as you can walk away from this type of person, you can start to introduce healthy habits like getting up early in the morning.

 

Judge Julia – At no point in your life should you feel as though someone is beneath you; for this reason, you need to be around people who don’t judge. Every person on this planet is unique, and so the only acts you should be questioning are your own; after all, these are the only ones you can control and change.

 

Complaining Carl – Just like the negative person we discussed previously, the complainer likes to whine about every little thing. From the weather to the price of a loaf of bread, they make it their life’s ambition to complain every day. If you fall into this habit, you will struggle to see the bright side of situations and your positive mindset will be gone.

 

Bully Brenda – Finally, you should also stay away from those who like to bully. Regardless of whether they are bullying you or someone else, you want to be around people that are genuinely pleasant and are happy not to change other people. Over time, they will change, and they will see that it is themselves with the problem, but you don’t have to be a part of this.

 

These are six types of people you should try and keep your distance from; if you can do this, you will be keeping all unnecessary negativity away from your life which will then allow you to stay positive and focus on growth and progress.

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TAKING EVERYTHING PERSONAL PREVENTS SELF-GROWTH!

Don’t take it personal, it’s all personal..

Ever since we were young, we would be told ‘not to take things personally’ but this is one of those things that is easier said than done. No matter how hard we try, we can’t help taking things personally because everything in life can be seen as ‘personal.’ When someone comments on anything about us, it is a comment on a personal level. However, there is one big factor that we forget – perspective.

In truth, perspective is something that we always need to be aware of if we aren’t going to let things get us down. As we go through life, we have a system of set opinions and beliefs, and when we come across someone new, we expect them to be the same (or at least see things from our perspective). However, this doesn’t happen, and it can lead to problems. Because we don’t all have the same vantage point in life, we all offer different perspectives and opinions. If we all had the same viewpoint, life would be boring because everyone would agree with everything you ever said and did.

If we look at your personal life, it is the same because you have a perception of how you look, how you act, how people think you act, and how you compare to others. When someone steps up and tells you something different, it is easy to get offended. However, they have been brought up and have gone through life with the same process as you…but with completely different perceptions.

With this in mind, you have to build a resistance and transform your ego into something more solid. If you let go of your ego and your preconceived beliefs, you will be happier to ‘go with the flow’ and be unaffected by what’s going on around you. When you take something personally, this is feeding your ego and making your perceptions stronger, but it won’t allow you to be free when it really matters. We have all developed an ego-based self-image, and it damages friendships and relationships every single day; to prevent this, you have to let go of your ego and be free.

If you allow yourself to open up to the experiences life has to offer, there is no way that this resistance or fear can influence your decisions. If you decide that not every situation has a person to blame or something to judge, you will be free to move down your path with grace. Why? Because you will be embracing who you are rather than putting up a shield that prevents people from getting close. This brick wall that has been sitting in between you and others will be removed, and there will be nothing to take personally. As soon as you open yourself up, you will find your path in life and decisions suddenly become a lot easier because you are…yourself.

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Top 5 Things To Quit ASAP!

Let’s QUIT some of these things ASAP!!

In life, we are always being told what we should improve, and we like to give you all tips on what to include in your life when it comes to your mindset; however, what about things we need to quit? As well as bringing the positives, you also need to remove the negatives so here are our top five!

The Fear of Change – We like to be comfortable in life, and sometimes, that means sticking to the status quo. Although we tell ourselves ‘I can change anytime I want to,’ we don’t actually do it unless necessary. However, change can be a good thing, and it is something we should all embrace a bit more. If you are constantly doing the same things, how will you ever discover your hidden talents and potential?

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Keeping Everyone Happy – Whether at work or in your personal life, it is impossible to keep everyone happy so stop trying. Often, we agree to plans knowing that they will be disrupting our own plans, we give in to make people happy, we agree to things we really don’t want to do, and more. Sometimes, you just have to say ‘no’ and put yourself first for once. You will not be able to live life keeping everyone happy because while you spin all those plates, guess who won’t be happy…you!

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Thinking Too Much – One of the biggest factors that hold us all back are worries, and you need to learn to stop overthinking and instead, start taking action. For example, what is the point of being worried about failure? All that will do is guarantee that you won’t succeed because you won’t even try. If you try, at least you are giving it your best shot. We spend half our life worrying about what people might think, about failure, about our previous mistakes, but you need to overcome this to move forward.

Looking In The Rear-View Mirror – You would never drive a car looking in the rear-view mirror so why do we live our lives constantly looking backward? If you keep looking back at all the failures you have made, you will never have the opportunity to put it right and progress right now. What happened in the past has gone, there is no way you can change it so start looking at the now and the future instead.

Although we mainly choose to look back at failures, looking back at ‘what used to be’ can be equally damaging. Again, maybe you have had some good times but you need to focus on the now otherwise your future will suffer.

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Not Taking Credit – From a very early age, we are taught to be humble, and this is a great asset to have. However, when you have done something well, and you are receiving praise, enjoy the moment and take credit for your success. Of course, you need to remain humble to a point, but you still need to accept praise and be proud!

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GET RID OF THESE HABITS AND YOU’LL BE HAPPIER!

Bad Habits. We all have some…

However, they can also be the downfall of our existence, get rid of these following habits and you are more thank likely to be happier.

 

Sometimes life can be hard. There is no denying this fact. However, you can make your life easier just by removing some poor habits. You may look at your life now and think that you can’t do anymore but have a little look down this list and see if they affect you.

 

Complaining – No matter how much you complain, nothing will ever happen. When you complain, all you are doing is spreading negative energy and putting yourself (as well as everyone else around you) in a bad mood. If you want to make a change, go ahead and act.

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Time-Wasting – You go home after a long day’s work, eat dinner, and then crash in front of the TV until it is time to go to bed; just think about all the things you could be doing in this time. You could be studying towards a new career, exercising to stay fit, learning a new skill, or absolutely anything. A good way to see where you are losing time is to keep a diary and then review it at the end of each week; you will be surprised at how much time you waste.

Negative Thinking – One day, write down all the negative thoughts you receive; you will be shocked at the result because you have probably just got used to it. When you realize just how negatively you have been thinking, you can do something about it to become more positive.

 

Not Planning – Let’s ask a question – how do you know where you are going if you have no plan? It becomes so easy to waste time when you don’t have a plan because you don’t know if it is progressing you or not. If you work out a plan to achieve your goals, decisions will be made for you and you will know the next steps to take to progress.

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Too Much Phone Time – Technology has advanced dramatically in recent years, but you still need to look up now and then; sometimes we spend all day at work and then all night looking at our phones. Why not turn your phone off now and then to spend quality time with those around you?


Lack of Sleep – Sleep is vital because it refreshes both your body and your mind allowing you to concentrate the next day. If you aren’t getting enough sleep, you are giving yourself no chance to do anything worthwhile the next day; the more you do it, the more it becomes a habit and the longer you will struggle.

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Staying Comfortable – How are you ever going to progress if you don’t leave your comfort zone? The comfort zone is great (hence the name), but if you don’t push yourself every now and then, you will never progress and become the person you want to be.

 

These are seven simple bad habits and ones that can be easily changed. It is all too easy to say that we are ‘fed up’ with life or that we want to ‘grow’ but we are holding ourselves back with these poor habits. If you want to progress, change your habits. We’re on this journey together!

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GETTING RID OF SADNESS

Here are 5 practical actions to take to help you with removing sadness.

We live in an ever-growing, busy world, and it can be easy to fall into a feeling of sadness and even misery. No matter how good you feel one day, life has a nature of being able to shoot you down soon after. So this begs the questions; is it possible to get rid of sadness? sadness - iwontlose2

In short, yes. However, we cannot completely remove it because it is a part of life that we cannot stop; what we can do though is change how it affects us. If we experience sadness, the only way that sadness will last for a long time is if we dwell on it and let it take over. This is why, as humans, we need to learn to get rid of sadness and respond to it with a more positive mindset.

Life WILL happen, and that means that you have to take the bad with the good; whether it is a personal loss, money troubles, career fatigue, or anything else, there are some ways in which you can better respond to sadness.

You Are The Boss – You have to realize that although life cannot be slowed down or altered in any way, you are still the boss of your timeline, and so you decide how to react to sadness. If you go for a job interview and fail, you can act as if it is the end of the world OR you can dust yourself off and give it another go after learning what mistakes were made.

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Responsibility – Admitting a mistake can often make you feel as if you are ‘weak’ and that you have ‘failed’ but it doesn’t have to be like this. Admitting a mistake can make you feel stronger as you have learned a valuable lesson. The mistakes can actually be more beneficial than the successes as they can teach you a valuable lesson.

Bad Things Happen – As mentioned, nobody lives the perfect life. This is why you have to realize that sometimes no matter how good you have been, bad things will happen; just in the same way that the sun rises and sets every day. It is how we react that makes us great.

Stay Motivated – You cannot change the past nor the events that have put you in this situation; however, what you can change is your future. It is perfectly fine to have your moment of sadness but then you have to remember that the decisions you make now will shape your future. Stay motivated to ensure that you live the best future possible.

Live – That being said, you should also remember to live in the present too. We spend so much of our lives ‘looking forward’ to finishing school, finishing college, starting a job, finding a partner, building a family, our children going to school, etc., that we often forget about today. Learn to appreciate today; go and enjoy something in the moment.

Sadness is but another ‘inevitable’ occurrence in life, so we have to overcome it if we ever want to move forward and progress.

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BECOMING WHO YOU WANT TO BE

BECOMING WHO YOU WANT TO BE – My 3 Tips

Do you find yourself with a distinct lack of motivation to wake up in the morning? Have you ever looked in the mirror only to ask ‘how did I get here? This wasn’t the plan!’? The fact of the matter is;  your life is in your own hands and if you want to change it, only you have the tools to do so.

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Let’s start this off with a little exercise; where do you see yourself in five years time? It’s as simple as that, look ahead five years and notice what is different from your life now. You can then look ahead to how your life will be in five years if nothing changes. If the two are vastly different, you have to make some changes starting today.

 

 

Here are my 3 tips to become the person you want to be:

 

#1 Start Today – Let that exercise be the motivation to make a change today. If you find yourself in somewhat of a rut, whether it is due to work, relationships, location, or more, try to make it your goal to achieve that vision that you have for yourself in five years time.

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It is very easy to feel down after thinking about the plans that you had for your life and then to notice how none of them have been achieved but what good will this do? This still won’t allow you to achieve your goals so instead, feel motivated so that you don’t have the same conversation with yourself another five years down the line.

#2 Create A Vision – You should use the vision you just thought about to create an image of where you want to be in life. Don’t just think ‘I want money’, what do you want money for? Build a life for yourself and maybe even build a standard day for your future life. Try to include as much detail as possible such as sights, smells, where you are living, who you are living with, the tasks you have for the day ahead, etc.

 

#3 Repeat Daily – It is important not to lose sight of this vision because you have done this before and it has only led you to where you are now. It doesn’t mean you have to think of it every moment of the day but spend a minute or two building your vision and adding to it daily. This way you have a constant reminder of who you want to be and a thriving motivation to get there.

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Ultimately, life can be hard but with a small amount of time each day you can be whoever you want to be. This isn’t the same as dreaming because you will be building a vision of an achievable life. Also, it doesn’t matter if you get five years down the line and you aren’t living that vision; as long as you are still making progress towards it, it could take 7, 10 or even 15 years. The point is, you will get there.

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HOW PASSIONATE ARE YOU?

How passionate are you about achieving your goals? Some are willing to give up, sacrifice, suffer, accept or tolerate and forego for that success. Some are willing to invest a little time and effort to get results, but won’t go beyond that, being satisfied with whatever they can achieve.

Being passionate is absolutely necessary. It is what will drive you to take the leap and set the wheels in motion. Passion is good because it brings out a sense of persistence, natural desire to stick to it and see through it. Passions give us purpose, but more than that, it makes us feel that we have purpose in our lives. Being passionate isn’t just about knowing – it’s also about feeling. That’s what makes passions so important; they make us feel that we’re on the right path in life and give us hope for a happy and exciting future! If you’re passionate, you have a clear understanding of what your purpose in life is. For this reason, you give much less importance to other things. Therefore you’re willing to risk more for the thing(s) that you find most important, that you are most passionate about. Those that are passionate are much more willing to give up things that don’t fall in their scope of passion.

So the question you have to ask yourself is: are you passionate? Passionate about a dream, goal that you’ve always wanted to achieve? Stop wasting that time investing in something else that doesn’t really matter and focus on what you’ve always wanted to do your whole entire life!

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3 Self Changes for a Successful 2016

3 Self Chages for a Successful 2016

Do you ever feel like things are holding you back? Holding you back from where you want to be, where you need to be or potentially how you need to grow? There are so many things that we do in life that we potentially forget what we need to remove from our lives to finally grow and just win. The year of 2016 is all bout evolving and excelling growth. Chasing our dreams/goals this year is crucial even if it means removing things from our life that will hold us back from reaching any of it. There are 3 things we can remove from our lives in order to win and gain success, are you ready to give these up in 2016?

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1.Procrastination has to be one of the biggest things a lot of us tend to struggle with. We have all these ideas but don’t ever take the time to write them down but most importantly get started on what you want to become in the future. The longer you wait, the longer it’ll take. Make sure you take some time out of your day even if it’s a quarter of the day, to start your craft and do what you love! Nothing is more irritating than having all these ideas, knowing you could be successful but not starting at all.

2. Negative Energy has to be the second thing on our list to remove in order to win. When we’re around negativity all the time, that doesn’t help us get closer to our craft, but farther. We need to realized a point in our life where we understand that things are not worth losing your dreams and goals and that being around negative energy all the time won’t persuade us to get where we need to be. We need to reach new heights in surrounding ourselves around positivity as hard it could be in a world full of negativity. This will be one of the ways to get going on your craft and WIN.

3. Fear is another factor that stops us from getting where we need to be. We’re so focused on thinking we’re not going to make it that we forget to realize that saying things like we’re not going to make it, then we won’t. If we say things like we are going to make it then we will, it all comes with perseverance and dedication. So many dreams are pushed under the rug because people are too scared to chase what they want because they may fail, but understand that failing comes with success and being greater. You must fail in order to experience the wave of doing good and learning to better yourself in terms of WINNING.

These are ways that can help you win, help you grow, help you stay motivated and rejuvenated for the year of 2016 but not only that, for your life. We need to stop letting things stop us from getting where we need to be and dedicate ourselves to more positive things within the future removing things that stop us from the process. Do you want to win? Or is staying at the same level something you’re okay with for the years to come. We hope you decide to win this year!

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