The 5 Enemies of Success

Want to get to the top of the mountain? Well, there will be tons of internal and external battles to be faced. Here are 5 enemies of success

Over the years, we have seen numerous tips for what needs to be done to see success. However, what about the factors that will prevent success from coming? We have five of the most important enemies you will need to overcome in the near future!

Negative self-talk – Of course, we sometimes say things to ourselves that could be extremely damaging. We should only be harsh to ourselves if it motivates us to charge forward. Anything that causes you to stop is a success killer. Negative self-talk is almost as bad as someone with someone with an inflated ego

Furthermore, you are more likely to be destroyed when you lose or make a mistake. Suddenly, you start to doubt your own ability and whether you were wrong to ever have confidence in yourself in the first place. If you manage your self-talk correctly, you should be able to bounce back whenever necessary.

Doubt – to bounce back after a failure, you need two things – confidence and an ability to remove doubt. Often, it is a combination of these two factors that help you to progress. For many people each year, they put off doing something new because they doubt their ability or doubt that their idea is viable even though they have planned it carefully. If you have this mindset, you are never going to make the jump required to make progress.

In truth, doubt can be a difficult one to remove because it seems to be ingrained in our minds. However, you will soon get there as long as you continue to work towards your goals. Over time, you will learn to ignore the doubt completely. If this isn’t possible at first, the goal should be to replace it with more positive thoughts.

Procrastination/Stagnation – Whether you are at the beginning of your journey or just a couple of steps from the top, it becomes very easy to procrastinate or stagnate. When you procrastinate, you find every excuse possible to not do your work and stagnation is similar in that you stand still instead of making progress.

In the beginning, it is hard to get started because you have the lack of belief and the doubt. However, you are never going anywhere unless you learn to take the first step. When you start to see some success, it then becomes convincing to stand still and stop working, but you need to remember your dreams. As long as you keep moving, you will be making progress so remember this.

Ego – When you feel a little unworthy, the doubt starts to creep into the mind and this leads to stagnation. On the other hand, your ego can also be an enemy because it leads to overconfidence and you start to become naive to the challenges ahead. In your business, you need to create relationships with customers, colleagues, employees, and suppliers, Sadly, a big ego leads to a sense of self-importance which makes these relationships tough to get started and even tougher to maintain.

Poor Timing – Finally, we have poor timing which, at first, seems like a factor you can’t control. When you look a little deeper, though, it often comes as a result of the things we have seen today – overconfidence, doubt, and generally taking too long or rushing into decisions. Eventually, you need to master timing and realize when opportunities are right in front of your eyes.

There we have it, five enemies, that you will need to overcome to see success. As long as you stay mindful of these 5 negative traits you have a far b vetter chance of landing success and keeping it! There is no reason why you can’t push forward and achieve your goals!

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Seeking Success When progress is Slow

Often, we talk about how to be successful but what happens when this success is slow in the making?

When this happens, we look for ways to speed it up because we just want to see results immediately. In truth, this is because we tend to focus all our attentions on the end result rather than the process of getting there. Suddenly, we want overnight success, but these are unrealistic expectations.

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Journaling and Meditation – When we strive towards success, there will be small achievements as well as little disappointments along the way. Over time, this requires integrity, stamina, and courage if you are to keep going. Sadly, we seem to focus on what isn’t working rather than what is, and this leads to constant disappointment and demotivation.

 

 

Instead, you should be looking to change your mindset to focus on what is working. To do this, we have two simple tips – meditation and journaling. With the latter, you can start each day by noting something or someone you’re grateful for and this will help to focus and realize how lucky you are. If you have many things for which you are grateful, it shows that you are definitely doing something right.

 

As mentioned, we also like mediation. At times, it gets a poor reputation, but this is only because people don’t take the time to learn what it’s all about. Essentially, the aim of meditation is to remove all judgments and thoughts because this allows the unconscious mind to take over. In this state, you can focus on your goals, enable your creative side, and ensure that you’re on the right path.

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Take Action – If success is a little slow so far, you need to question the action you have been taking. In many cases, people believe that they are acting when, in truth, there is a lot more they could be doing. If you have been holding back, ask yourself why this is the case. If you decide that this is definitely the path you desire, take some risks, get out of your comfort zone, and propel yourself forward to reach your goals. Every day, write a list of tasks that will move you forward. If you don’t do them, you need accountability so tell your friends and phone them at the end of the day. As soon as you get used to doing this every day, you will be making progress.

 

Be Patient – Sometimes, success takes hard work; it takes determination; it requires risks and tremendous leaps of faith. Other times, it just requires a little patience. As long as you are doing all you can and you aren’t ending days or weeks with regret, you know that it will come in good time. If you originally wanted overnight success, this patience will be tough, but it will be worth it in the end.

 

Conclusion – Success is an interesting thing; above all else, it is subjective. What does success mean? For you, it may mean reaching the top of your industry and being a well-known figure. For others, it means having the financial security to support their family. As soon as you find your definition of success, you need to work hard, focus on what is working, and practice patience. Once you master this, success is just a matter of time.

 

 

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4 steps to help you invest in yourself the right way!

This is how you Invest in Yourself in Four Easy Steps

 

Nowadays, we hear ‘invest’ and various other similar terms constantly. So much so, the word is automatically linked to employees and more efficient techniques within manufacturing, and everything business-related. However, there is one place that the term is rarely used – on ourselves. At some point, we all reach a stage where we just need to invest in ourselves, but it can be hard knowing where to start.Today, we have four easy steps that you can complete to invest in yourself for a brighter future.

 

Create a List – To start, you have to sit yourself down with a pen and paper and write down all the goals you want to achieve. Whether they are huge life ambitions or small targets you have in life. For example, you might want to write a book, reach a certain weight, learn how to play an instrument, learn a second language, or anything that requires skills developed over time. Although this might sound crazy at first, we want you to write down 30+ things. Don’t worry you won’t be able to stop once you get going.

 

When writing, keep them in three categories where one you need skills to complete, one you can do immediately, and the last you need a little time to complete. By doing this, you are finding your true desires as long as you remember to take your time and take breaks.

 

Create a Chart – As you can see, this is all about letting your creative juices flow with hopes that your mind will do the same. Here, we want you to be honest about your skills. At first, this will not feel natural, but it will be a good experience to learn what skills we have and what skills we lack. In order to achieve some of the goals on your list, you may need to learn some new skills, and there is nothing wrong with this. Here, try and utilize a chart or table of some sort including what research you need to do for the skills, what courses may help you, etc. At the end of it all, you should be left with columns for research, action, and then progress.

 

Take Action – Hopefully, you will feel motivated at this point, and you will want to get started on your list. As soon as you get that first tick on the table, you will feel great, and the motivation should then keep coming. If you followed our tips in the first step, you should have some goals that can be done straight away so get a couple of these ticked off as soon as possible. Once the ticks keep coming, the list will become less intimidating by the day. If you leave the chart with no ticks whatsoever, it will look daunting, and you will eventually give up.

 

Don’t Forget Long-Term Goals – Whenever you get some spare time, you can then start working towards the goals that will take a little longer. Over time, try to remove procrastination and work on your list if you have nothing better to do. As long as you do this, and remember to keep ticking the short-term goals, you will keep making progress.

 

There we have it, four fantastic steps to achieve 30+ goals and continually invest in yourself for years to come. If your list changes, this is absolutely fine. Also, even just four ticks a year is fine because this means 25 years of successful progression!

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The Importance of Negative Life Lessons

Let’s start this with a question – when you look at the people at the top of your desired field, do you think that they have ever been through negative experiences? All things considered, this could be a failure, mistakes, and just negative issues that affected their development. Of course, the answer to this is ‘yes’ because everyone has hard times. However, it is how we react and respond to these that will allow us to progress in life.

 

When we look for ways to grow as a person, we normally look for success and good decisions. However, as counter-intuitive as it sounds, there is something to be said for learning the negative life lessons. When we were children, our parents would tell us not to play in the street while we learned other things to avoid ourselves. Despite this, we seem to lose this as we grow older until we only focus on what we should be doing. Why is this the case?

 

Whether it is for our personal lives or in regards to our career, learning what we shouldn’t do is vital. Therefore, the negative life lessons provide us with opportunities in which we get to know ourselves and how to progress. In business, you have to learn not to treat employees poorly. Otherwise, they lose motivation and productivity decreases. In a relationship, yo have to learn not to cut your partner from important decisions otherwise they feel as though their opinion isn’t important. Too often, people see negative experiences as a sign that they should stop, turn around, and run in the opposite direction. Instead, they should be used as opportunities to grow and develop as a person.

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In truth, we could take this a step further. Not only is it important to learn from our mistakes, but it is also valuable to learn from the mistakes of others. If you sit and watch as a friend or colleague fails in some way, you would be foolish to go out there and attempt the same thing. Regardless of the source, the people around you will provide you with opportunities to learn, so you need to snap them up whenever they arise.

 

So far, we have used the term ‘negative life lessons, ’ and this is because they result from negative experiences. However, a good mindset to adopt would be one that sees all life lessons as positive. When Thomas Edison invented the light bulb, the world would be changed forever, but not many people know that he actually failed many times before. In fact, he failed in his creation around 10,000 times. When questioned on this ‘failure,’ he noted that he didn’t fail 10,000 times, he simply found 10,000 ways in which the light bulb would not work. When you think about it, this is a beautiful statement, and it sums up the point we have been discussing today.

 

As soon as you learn to see all lessons as positive, the faster you will make progress towards your goals. Always seeing success can be great but what if you could consistently see success while knowing exactly how to avoid failure? If you put a lot of effort into something only for it to fail tremendously, take a step back and realize how good this can be. Of course, you are entitled to a few seconds of being disappointed, but then you can focus on how not to make the same mistakes in the future!

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Improving Your Self-Esteem

Often, we hear about ‘self-esteem’ and how it can be ‘low’ or ‘high’ but what exactly does this mean?

In essence, self-esteem measures the value of which we see ourselves. If we don’t value ourselves or our contribution to the world, we are said to have low self-esteem. If the opposite is true and we are full of confidence, we can have a high self-esteem.

 

Unfortunately, too many people in this world don’t value themselves, and it can have a detrimental impact on life, career, personal relationships, and more. For this reason, we have three key things that you need to do to turn this around and become a better version of yourself.

 

Accept Yourself – As soon as you are able to accept yourself for who you are, you can start to judge yourself rather than comparing yourself to the people around you. Regardless of how much effort you put in, there will be some people that you don’t click with but this doesn’t reflect poorly on you; this simply means that you aren’t quite right for each other.

 

Remember, you are a great fit for many people in this world because there are over seven billion of us. When you find your fit, you will grow while wanting to grow as opposed to being asked to grow.

 

Give Up – Although this may sound odd, we don’t mean that you should give up entirely, we mean that it is entirely okay to give up some things. For example, give up on trying to make everybody in your life happy, give up on the people who don’t respect you for who you are, give up on people who continue to hold you back while you’re trying to progress.

 

As children, we are told never to give up, but you have to know that there are certain things that you absolutely have to give up to see progress and improve your self-esteem. Rather than letting bad habits or negative people drag you down, give them up and look towards a better future.

 

Remember Your Strengths – At all times, you need to remember that you are unique and giving it your best shot at this one chance you have on planet earth. When you do something, it is valuable, and you have unique skills, talents, and abilities that make you who you are. In this world, there are certain things that nobody knows or can do better than you can. If you ever doubt yourself, remember this as well as the fact that failure will also teach you important lessons so sometimes it is ok to make a mistake.

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Summary – When you start to do and believe in all of these three things, you will instantly start building the foundations for a brighter future. If you are someone who is known for having low self-esteem, promise today that you will do these things in order to turn it around!

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Get Shit done with these productivity routine

Productivity is the KEY to a successful you. Here are some routines that can help you get shit done!

 

Fighting procrastination and staying productive is one of life’s tricky topics, but it can be done. If you want to get into positive habits and routines, we have some fantastic tips that will allow you to do just this.

 

Stop Comparing – Instead of constantly comparing your performance to others, get your head down and focus on things you can change and improve – yourself.

 

Celebrate Others – If other people do something worth celebrating, take part and show your appreciation of them.

 

Celebrate Others – If other people do something worth celebrating, take part and show your appreciation of them.

 

Never Snooze – If you set up two or more snoozes, you will be disrupting your REM sleep and create a general state of confusion. Try and go to bed at a sensible time and wake up at the first alarm, you will soon feel the benefits.

 

Breakfast – Did you know that breakfast is often called the most important meal of the day? Luckily, this isn’t just random as it really does set you up with energy for the rest of the day. If you feed your body, you will also feed your mind for the day ahead.

 

Talk – If you have meaningful topics you wish to discuss, why not ask your colleagues and gauge their opinions? If you do this, you will feel rejuvenated for work.

 

Be Professional – When meeting colleagues in the break room, always remain professional and avoid any groups that like to gossip.

 

Meditation – With the word ‘meditation’, people often link it to religion or spirits, but this isn’t the case. Ultimately, anyone can meditate as it helps to relax the mind while regaining focus on your goals. Through meditation, you will also learn different techniques such as the full body scan which can help you to listen to your body.

 

 Stay Positive – When it comes to productivity, a negative mindset won’t get you anywhere so be sure to remain positive.

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Go Easy on yourself – No matter how hard you try, life will get tough, and you will make mistakes. If this happens, go easy on yourself and keep that positive mindset.

 

Be Accountable – If you want to boost productivity, you have to be accountable so people can gauge a natural resting point for your work. Then, people can point out if you have dipped below this point or send praise when you rise above it.

 

Have Your Own Time – If you live life simply to work; you will soon lose motivation for what you do. Instead, find time for yourself and leave work where it belongs – at work.

 

As you can see, these are easy tips that you can utilize to boost your productivity and get shit done. As soon as you introduce these to your daily routines, you will instantly improve your chances of success.

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Trusting the Process

‘It’s ok to not have the answer yet, continue your journey and trust the process’

 

This is a quote that should be said and listened to far more often than it is nowadays; we all want to find success whether it is in our personal lives, in our career, in a sports team, in absolutely anything and everything that we do. However, no matter how close we get, we tend to make the mistake of choosing the quickest journey to get there.

 

Sport is a fantastic place to witness this because it is experienced every single year all around the world; for example, basketball teams that go 3-1 up in the play-offs. For some reason, once they go one game away from winning the series, they start to play differently because they are looking for the quickest route of success. This was seen just recently as the Warriors came from 3-1 down to win the series 4-3 and go through to the finals. How did they do this? They trusted their ability, they trusted their preparation and they trusted the process.

 

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This should be taken advantage of every single day and used to get exactly what you want in your personal life as well as your career. If you have a goal for your career and you get close, don’t suddenly chase the quickest route of reaching your goal, trust the process and continue with what you have been doing. This process is clearly working so why would you risk changing it? Ultimately, it may take a bit longer but as long as you have the faith, it will happen.

 

Life is tough; there is always going to be somebody waiting around the corner ready to trip you up, there is always going to be a pitfall for you to get hurt by. As long as you put your trust in the process, you will be staying safe from these setbacks. This does require a certain personality and it can be hard to get used to because from the outside, it may look as though you aren’t making any progress but you will know that you are doing the right thing. Others will get frustrated and will become impatient which simply leads to failure.

 

This isn’t just a method that ‘could work’ or that ‘has potential’, this is proven and can help in a number of different areas of your life. People use this every single day whether they are trying to maintain a personal relationship, climb the proverbial ladder in their career, or even trying to lose weight when on a diet.

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As mentioned, this will not be easy. It may take daily reminders but in the long run, you can chase your dreams whilst believing in yourself, remaining focused and trusting the pr

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BECOMING WHO YOU WANT TO BE

BECOMING WHO YOU WANT TO BE – My 3 Tips

Do you find yourself with a distinct lack of motivation to wake up in the morning? Have you ever looked in the mirror only to ask ‘how did I get here? This wasn’t the plan!’? The fact of the matter is;  your life is in your own hands and if you want to change it, only you have the tools to do so.

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Let’s start this off with a little exercise; where do you see yourself in five years time? It’s as simple as that, look ahead five years and notice what is different from your life now. You can then look ahead to how your life will be in five years if nothing changes. If the two are vastly different, you have to make some changes starting today.

 

 

Here are my 3 tips to become the person you want to be:

 

#1 Start Today – Let that exercise be the motivation to make a change today. If you find yourself in somewhat of a rut, whether it is due to work, relationships, location, or more, try to make it your goal to achieve that vision that you have for yourself in five years time.

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It is very easy to feel down after thinking about the plans that you had for your life and then to notice how none of them have been achieved but what good will this do? This still won’t allow you to achieve your goals so instead, feel motivated so that you don’t have the same conversation with yourself another five years down the line.

#2 Create A Vision – You should use the vision you just thought about to create an image of where you want to be in life. Don’t just think ‘I want money’, what do you want money for? Build a life for yourself and maybe even build a standard day for your future life. Try to include as much detail as possible such as sights, smells, where you are living, who you are living with, the tasks you have for the day ahead, etc.

 

#3 Repeat Daily – It is important not to lose sight of this vision because you have done this before and it has only led you to where you are now. It doesn’t mean you have to think of it every moment of the day but spend a minute or two building your vision and adding to it daily. This way you have a constant reminder of who you want to be and a thriving motivation to get there.

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Ultimately, life can be hard but with a small amount of time each day you can be whoever you want to be. This isn’t the same as dreaming because you will be building a vision of an achievable life. Also, it doesn’t matter if you get five years down the line and you aren’t living that vision; as long as you are still making progress towards it, it could take 7, 10 or even 15 years. The point is, you will get there.

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4 Ways to Stay Truly Motivated

4 Ways to Stay Truly Motivated

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5 Ways to Stay Truly Motivated

Once you set a target, forget about who you are or where you are from, the number one difficulty you will surely face is yourself. You begin to have negative thoughts on how difficult it is for you to achieve something. It’s important you are not influenced by personal feelings or opinion; however, you should not give unreasonable negative thoughts the chance to lead you. You remain the decider and each time you make a decision, no negative thought should be allowed to interfere.

 
Stay far away from Naysayers

5 Ways to Stay Truly Motivated

It already seems like a difficult task when you try not to allow your mind interfere in your plans, however, another challenge you can face in your life is a set of people who keeps predicting negatively, they keep telling you why you can’t do this, or why you can’t do that. I call them prophets of doom. These set of people are the same reason behind many idea failures today. These people are poisonous and will try to stop you from reaching your goal. Once you realize they have no positive impact, then you must let go of them and welcome people with positive mindset who can help you achieve your goals.

 
Be of High Quality

You want to keep doing what you know how to do best, however, instead of pursuing your potential in a straight manner, try to keep learning even though you are good at it. Do things that make you better and over the time make you the best.

 
Focus on your Reason

5 Ways to Stay Truly Motivated

More often, when you are struggling to achieve a goal, you do that because you have an ultimate goal in mind. You should let this ultimate goal be in the leading position of your mind all the time. The reason you started working in direction to your goal is because of the advantages that follows when you accomplish it. If you keep thinking about it, you remain motivated.

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Succeed Even After Failing

To some people, failure can quite literally be the end of the world. They try to lead their lives as close to ‘perfection’ as possible and if something goes wrong, they have failed and they struggle to get over it. To them, it proves that they are human and that things can go wrong but this is something that they don’t like or enjoy.

 

If you are reading this so far whilst nodding along, you have to realise that this isn’t a healthy way to live. You have to realise that there are certain things in life that you simply cannot control and so things will go wrong from time to time. However, this doesn’t mean that you have some sort of problem that you have to fix. The most important thing about failure is how you deal with it; of course, the easiest thing to do is let it get you down and dwell on how badly you have failed. Although this is the easier method, it definitely isn’t the best one.

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The best way to deal with failure is to use it as an opportunity to learn; it gives you a chance to learn what you can do to improve so that you can do better the next time. Let’s say you have an interview for your dream job and you fail to get offered the role; you could be down and think ‘it’s all over’ OR you can find out where you went wrong and learn how to improve so you ensure you get the job next time. It is important to find out why you failed; in our example, did you fail because you failed to do enough research on the company? Was it because your resume wasn’t up to scratch? Whatever the reason for your failure, you can then treat it as a stepping stone towards growth to ensure it doesn’t happen again.

 

This is what’s known as ‘The Art of Failure’; knowing how to deal with failure is seen as an art because it can sometimes teach you more than success. If you want to succeed in life, you have to harness this power because you will be sure to hit some bumps along the way. If you find yourself failing often, see if there is a common denominator for your failure and find out how to fix it. Maybe it is your mindset; do you need to be more confident?

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As soon as you realise that failure can help you to learn and that you have the power to do so, overcoming a problem suddenly isn’t as hard as it seems. Once you breakdown exactly why you failed and work out solutions to this problem, your personal development will improve dramatically as not all people have this skill; you will suddenly set yourself apart from the rest of the crowd. Treat life like a journey and make sure that you take the hard times alongside the good times; if you ever fail at something, pick yourself up, dust yourself off, find out why you failed and improve in that area so you can continue on the road to success.

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