Leaving your comfort zone | Self Development

Many people have come to understand the importance of setting self-development goals but actualizing these dreams will take a proactive attitude. It is actually easier to stay within your comfort zone, where you will not be bothered with the challenges of self-development.  On the other side, there are enormous potentials in pushing your limits to achieve your dreams the thrill that comes with surprising yourself when you achieve can be a really amazing and encouraging feeling. You will definitely be on your way to becoming a better version of yourself. Do you want to break out of your comfort zone? The following ideas will help you devise the best way to go about doing this.


  1. Facing your fears

No one has actually experienced a perfect life, the truth is happy people have faced their fears and conquered them or found ways to deal with them effectively. Acknowledging that there must be challenges will bring you to the point where you will have to make a decision either to stand and face your fears or run away from them. Sadly, running away from our fears has never made them go away. Now, how can you defeat your fears? The best way to go about this is by getting enlightened about the situation. With the right information, you will know what you must do to overcome your fears. It is common to hear people laugh about how long they had let a situation control them, only if they had known it would be this easy to overcome the challenge, they would have been free a long time ago.

2. Be Informed and embrace the process

Developing the mind is crucial to actualizing self-development; this is what education does for you. Without education, your mind will not be challenged to seek more than you already have. It creates an exposure that informs you about better things and features that even you can possess and enjoy. Getting an education will also empower you with the right information to know if your fears about breaking free from your comfort zone are actually valid.

Stepping out of your comfort zone should be a gradual process. This can be easily achieved by setting “easy” short-term goals. Achieving these goals will give you the confidence to go for bigger challenges ahead.

A good example is someone who finds it difficult to make friends or carry on a good conversation might end up never trying all through their lives if they never come out of their comfort zone. The gradual steps to take in this case will be to begin by acting friendly, greet people with a smile and soon you will realize that the people around you are more than willing to sit and have a talk with you.

3. Be Adventurous

Being bold enough to do the things you wouldn’t normally do will ease you out of your comfort zone quicker than you think. This is the time to think about these things you have always wanted to do but for many reasons felt fear at the thought of doing them. You can make a list and start from the easy options then work your way up the list until your confidence levels are at a high you never thought was achievable. While you are at this, know that people around you will notice the changes and they will comment on how good it suits you, this will be encouraging too. Always remember, approaching a new idea armed with the right information about it can never go wrong. 

4. Seize every opportunity to meet new people

There are very many interesting people out there. It is even more encouraging to know that there are many gifted people from whom you can learn a lot of new things. Welcoming new knowledge will put you on the highway of excellence and greatness in everything you do. Meet new people, start great conversations with them by asking meaningful questions and you will be happy you did.

5. Never forget your achievements

As you head towards a point for self-actualization and development, you should remember your achievements along this path no matter how small they are. This will help you maintain a positive frame of mind to keep at it knowing there are better things in the future just waiting for you. Staying positive is vital to attaining a high level of self-development. Sadly, there will be other people who have never stepped out of their comfort zones, they will try to discourage you, your positive mental attitude will shut out their pessimism and you will achieve your goals.


BONUS: Find a friend who is extroverted

Generally, spending time with people who have the qualities we desire will help us come out of our comfort zone. In the case of our example here, spending time with a friend who finds it easy to make friends will be very helpful because you will be witnessing firsthand how easy it is for them to chat with other people.


The feeling of fear is normal, we all experience fear when we are about to do something that we haven’t done before. Having the right information is the key to achieving success. You can deal with fear by practicing activities like special breathing patterns to ease your mind, meditation and the use of effective mantra, positive imagination or listening to music. Find out what works for you and go with it, but you must never quit because the “you” who will emerge from this process will be an amazing person.

Physical Fitness and Self Esteem Go Hand in Hand

Physical Fitness and Self Esteem Go Hand in Hand

How the Internet can help improve one’s self confidence


Physical fitness is always a good topic, however, we must not forget that there are other facets of our lives that are also important, such as self esteem. How a person values himself/herself is quite essential, as it affects how he/she turns out later in life. If a person believes in themselves, their mood becomes balanced, and has the tendency to have a more positive outlook in life; it also results in healthy relationships.


There are a lot of ways to help improve one’s self esteem, and socializing is one of these. The advent of social networks such as Twitter, Tumblr, and Facebook has made it easier for many to communicate and “socialize” online. In this light, online games have also become a platform for gamers to meet new friends. Unbeknownst to many, playing video and online games also help improve one’s self esteem. A study conducted by Dr. Andy Przybylski of the University of Oxford revealed that gamers can have the freedom to be who they want to be through the characters they design themselves.

“A game can be more fun when you get the chance to act and be like your ideal self,” Przybylski shares.

The positive effects of course, also rely on the type of game that is being played. Online games with “communities” where gamers can exchange ideas and tips create a friendly environment for people to socialize. Games that allow players to interact with each other allow players to feel a sense of belonging.


It may not be obvious to a lot of people, but game developers are gearing towards creating positive and welcoming communities to their players. UK-based game developer AlchemyBet, creators of Pocket Fruity, ensures that players and visitors are kept informed through the blogs on their online games.

“First, it will make it more attractive to the search engines. Secondly it’s a great way to provide information and educate your customer about your products, business, industry, etc. Lastly, a blog can give a human face to your business making it stand out from the crowd,” explains Bradley&Company.

While there are a lot of benefits in playing and socializing online, moderation is still key. One should remember that there is still no alternative to spending quality time with friends and family.



Creating Change

Creating Instantaneous Change

By: Dayne Gingrich (Coach D)!/CoachDayne

Reaching another level can be difficult, primarily because of how long
the process takes. Becoming an “overnight success” is only possible
after 10+ years of dedication towards your craft. This fact can be
tough to mentally grasp, especially in today’s society of instant
gratification. Very few will commit themselves to the long run, falsely
thinking their goals should immediately appear. Even though creating
long lasting improvement will always take incredible amounts of
patience, there are three things you can do right now that will bring
you instantaneous change.

Develop An Emotional Driving Force
Having goals and taking massive action towards them is important,
but without a strong reason behind those goals, it becomes easy to
give in to the impending struggle. Every highly successful person not
only knows why he’s pursuing his dreams, but is emotionally glued to
the reason from the inside-out. This intense driving force takes a
hopeful attitude, and reverts it to an unstoppable force. Wanting to
succeed is a great start, but deciding that nothing will stop you, no
matter how long it takes or how much pain you have to endure is
what will take you to another plateau. This decision, however, can’t
be cemented into your core belief system until you’ve answered one
important question: “Why am I doing it?” Until you look yourself in
the mirror and answer honestly, the difficulty of the process will
eventually stop your well-intentioned action. Until you dig deep and
emotionally connect to the reasons for withstanding all obstacles that
arise, success will just be a desire. This type of motivation can’t be
stopped – it comes from the heart, and is aimed directly at your
target. What’s your reason?

Raise The Bar
Maximizing success comes from raising your personal expectations.
The majority believe you should keep your expectations low,
reducing the amount of pain you’ll experience if you fail.

Your mind will only take you as far as you ask it to go, so if you ask for the
minimum, that’s exactly what you’ll get. We’re taught to believe limits
exist – this is only true if you decide they exist. If I raise my bar and
miss, I’ll still be at a higher level than the person who keeps his bar
low and attains. If you commit to raising your expectations, you’ll
begin to view your specifics through completely different lenses –
you’ll see possibilities, rather than constraints. When you dedicate
your mindset to reaching a level the majority believe is impossible,
you’ll feel a confidence you didn’t know existed. Create a passion
that’s committed to doing what the masses are unwilling to do … this
will always include elevating your bar on success.

Change Your Vocabulary
Your self-talk will instantly change your path and intensity behind
your growth. Reality is based on how you perceive each moment –
your thoughts and words determine this perception. Eliminate the
words, “hope,” “wish,” and “maybe” from your vocabulary. They’re
weak and noncommittal. Replace them with “I will” and “I am.” This
simple adjustment will dramatically change your mindset, giving you
an immediate feeling of power and confidence. We’re conditioned to
talk in a passive style, because the aggressive approach I
recommend creates risk and vulnerability. When we say, “I will
achieve my goal, guaranteed,” we leave ourselves open to the
possibility of failure. In order to counter this instinctively vulnerable
state, we learn to communicate with ourselves in a more docile, static
fashion: “I hope to achieve my goals” leaves us with the illusion of
moving forward, but produces a fearful mentality. Everything you say
creates an emotion, generating specific action. It’s this action that
secures results. In the end, all results are ultimately based on your
self-talk. Align what you say with the outcome you want.