DO YOU KNOW YOUR TRUE SELF?

We think we know ourselves but do we really? It’s time to evaluate your true-self today!



If we were to ask you questions regarding your friends, you could probably answer them in an instant. However, we aren’t so good with questions about ourselves. Do you know yourself as a person? Sadly, millions of people can’t answer this question because they have been focusing on the ‘what’ rather than the ‘who’. As a prime example of this, we were asked as children ‘what’ we wanted to be when we grew up rather than ‘who’.

If you do one thing this year, find your true self because it can be a rewarding and self-fulfilling process. Today, we have seven things you should be discovering in the time ahead. Once you complete these, you can become the person you want to be.

 

 

Value targetValues – First and foremost, your personal values are perhaps most important because they explain your opinions and even your actions. What are your beliefs and do you know exactly why these factors are important for you? Over time, you should also learn just how committed you are to these beliefs and they begin to form your opinions and help to make important decisions.

 

 

Passions – If we were to ask you to list ten things you enjoy doing, we could almost guarantee that most of the activities would be with friends. Although this is great, we want you to spend some time alone and find out what you really enjoy. What activities capture your whole attention and imagination? Of course, we are all unique so this is likely to be different to everyone else you know.strengths iwontlose

 

 

Strengths – Along with your passions, you can also find your strengths and where your natural abilities lay. In all likelihood, you have different strengths to everyone else around you so there is no point acting like somebody else. Instead, you can find your own strengths and be your own person.

 

 

Limitations – On the flip side, we all have limitations and things that, no matter how hard we try, we just cannot get right. For some reason, we beat ourselves up for this but even the people you admire most have things at which they cannot excel; there is nobody in the world that can do everything well. As long as you know this, you can focus your energy on your strengths instead.

 

 

Tendencies – In truth, we all have tendencies whether it is to jump into ideas head first or procrastinate for a period of days and weeks. If you recognize your tendencies, you can better analyze your personality whilst pinpointing areas that could be improved. Eventually, you will know how these tendencies contribute or harm your strengths and limitations.

 

 

Goals – As mentioned at the beginning, who do you want to be when you grow older? Even if you think you’re ‘old’ now, who do you want to be in five, ten, or twenty years’ time? Remember, all goals need to be SMART; specific, measurable, attainable, realistic, and time-related.

 

 

directionDirection – Finally, where is your direction in life and where is your true self-going to direct you in the coming years? As soon as you understand the first six factors, the direction will take care of itself. Often, we spend too long focusing on the destination when the journey itself is the most important factor. Once you choose a direction that represents YOUR happiness, you can be confident that you will enjoy the life that unfolds before you!

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Seeking Success When progress is Slow

Often, we talk about how to be successful but what happens when this success is slow in the making?

When this happens, we look for ways to speed it up because we just want to see results immediately. In truth, this is because we tend to focus all our attentions on the end result rather than the process of getting there. Suddenly, we want overnight success, but these are unrealistic expectations.

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Journaling and Meditation – When we strive towards success, there will be small achievements as well as little disappointments along the way. Over time, this requires integrity, stamina, and courage if you are to keep going. Sadly, we seem to focus on what isn’t working rather than what is, and this leads to constant disappointment and demotivation.

 

 

Instead, you should be looking to change your mindset to focus on what is working. To do this, we have two simple tips – meditation and journaling. With the latter, you can start each day by noting something or someone you’re grateful for and this will help to focus and realize how lucky you are. If you have many things for which you are grateful, it shows that you are definitely doing something right.

 

As mentioned, we also like mediation. At times, it gets a poor reputation, but this is only because people don’t take the time to learn what it’s all about. Essentially, the aim of meditation is to remove all judgments and thoughts because this allows the unconscious mind to take over. In this state, you can focus on your goals, enable your creative side, and ensure that you’re on the right path.

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Take Action – If success is a little slow so far, you need to question the action you have been taking. In many cases, people believe that they are acting when, in truth, there is a lot more they could be doing. If you have been holding back, ask yourself why this is the case. If you decide that this is definitely the path you desire, take some risks, get out of your comfort zone, and propel yourself forward to reach your goals. Every day, write a list of tasks that will move you forward. If you don’t do them, you need accountability so tell your friends and phone them at the end of the day. As soon as you get used to doing this every day, you will be making progress.

 

Be Patient – Sometimes, success takes hard work; it takes determination; it requires risks and tremendous leaps of faith. Other times, it just requires a little patience. As long as you are doing all you can and you aren’t ending days or weeks with regret, you know that it will come in good time. If you originally wanted overnight success, this patience will be tough, but it will be worth it in the end.

 

Conclusion – Success is an interesting thing; above all else, it is subjective. What does success mean? For you, it may mean reaching the top of your industry and being a well-known figure. For others, it means having the financial security to support their family. As soon as you find your definition of success, you need to work hard, focus on what is working, and practice patience. Once you master this, success is just a matter of time.

 

 

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3 Simple Ways to Set Yourself Up For Success in 2017

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We reach that time of year again where self-assessment and reflection are at an all-time high. As we head into 2017, we start to assess our goals and decide whether we are truly happy in life or whether changes need to be made. If you choose to progress in your current industry or push towards a new career, we have three simple ways of setting yourself up for success.

 

Set a Plan – Of course, this time of year is synonymous with setting so-called ‘New Year’s Resolutions’ but how successful are these aims? According to a recent study, less than 10% of people feel as though they were successful with their resolution come December. To go further, only 58% of resolutions remain in place after just one month. Why is this the case?

 

In most cases, the failure comes because there is a real lack of planning. When deciding on your goals for 2017, you need to work out exactly how you plan to get there otherwise there is no point in the first place. Would you plan a holiday without planning how to get there? When planning, remember daily, weekly, and monthly actions you can take to progress towards your goals. However, never let planning get in the way of starting the journey.

 

Simplicity is Key – Rather than setting many different goals and getting confused so that, by the end of the year, no progress is made, try to set just one goal for each area of your life. In life, it is always good to have many different ambitions but you will see much better results as soon as you slow down and focus on one goal at a time.

 

For many, quitting smoking is one of the main goals of the year and one simple way to move towards that aim is to calculate what money is currently being spent on the habit and where that money could go if you were to quit. For example, if you have children, it could be put towards a holiday or new toys and clothes. In all areas of your goal-setting, simplicity is key and this should come together with your planning seen in the first tip. Rather than creating difficult and confusing plans, keep things simple and take one small step at a time.

 

Don’t Forget Balance – Having a plan and setting goals is all well and good but this doesn’t mean that we should completely forget other areas of life. In truth, balance should be one of the most important targets that you have this year because we need it for that one word we have used throughout – success.

 

For example, a lack of balance can be seen in many areas of life but commonly in the gym. Have you ever seen a bulky guy in the gym that creates a sense of intimidation just by walking around with huge arms, chest, and shoulders? To see whether they have correct balance, take a glance down at their legs. Sadly, many work too hard on the upper body and leave the legs behind which makes them look like a cartoon character with stick legs. Essentially, this is a brilliant metaphor for life so you need to remember all areas of life and don’t let one fall behind. If your career is going well, don’t forget to take some time to maintain your personal relationships. Every so often, take a step back and reassess to ensure that you remain on the right path.

 

Summary – With these three simple tips, you can set yourself up for success in 2017. Rather than setting a ‘resolution’ this month, why not set some goals and a plan to make sure that you really do succeed in 2017?

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Keep Your Distance From These Types of People

Look out for these 6 types of people to avoid becoming one of them..

In life, we are told to be happy because this can influence other people too. Does this mean it reflects in the opposite way? Yes, people around you will feel negative if you project it onto them. However, rather than looking at how you can affect people, we are going to look at how other people can influence you. For this reason, we have six types of people you should avoid if you want to keep the right mindset in life.

 

Note: The names used do not reflect real people, focus on removing the types of people not everyone you know with the names we will use!

 

Negative Nigel – Sooner or later, you will come across people who will only talk about the negative things in their life, and you need to keep your distance from them entirely. If you spend too much time around them, their negative mood will affect you and distract you from your goals.

 

Gossip Gloria – Some people just love to gossip, and although it is natural to a point, you should never spend your time with people who gossip all day long. Rather than focusing on other lives, focus on your own and you will make more progress.

 

Party Peter – now and then, we all need to spend some time away from work and let our hair down. However, this doesn’t mean that you need to go out every night. Not only will this drain your body and mind of all energy, but your wallet will also see the consequences. As soon as you can walk away from this type of person, you can start to introduce healthy habits like getting up early in the morning.

 

Judge Julia – At no point in your life should you feel as though someone is beneath you; for this reason, you need to be around people who don’t judge. Every person on this planet is unique, and so the only acts you should be questioning are your own; after all, these are the only ones you can control and change.

 

Complaining Carl – Just like the negative person we discussed previously, the complainer likes to whine about every little thing. From the weather to the price of a loaf of bread, they make it their life’s ambition to complain every day. If you fall into this habit, you will struggle to see the bright side of situations and your positive mindset will be gone.

 

Bully Brenda – Finally, you should also stay away from those who like to bully. Regardless of whether they are bullying you or someone else, you want to be around people that are genuinely pleasant and are happy not to change other people. Over time, they will change, and they will see that it is themselves with the problem, but you don’t have to be a part of this.

 

These are six types of people you should try and keep your distance from; if you can do this, you will be keeping all unnecessary negativity away from your life which will then allow you to stay positive and focus on growth and progress.

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HOW TO LOSE A FU*KING BAD HABIT!

Losing a Bad Habit is hard as fu*k but try breaking your habit down with these realistic timelines..

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Having a bad habit is hard because you try to break it only to find that it’s too hard, and then you feel bad; it creates a spiral of negativity between feeling bad and falling deeper. However, the reason why you haven’t quit before could be because you give up too early. According to recent studies, it takes around 65 days to lose a bad habit completely and develop a new one.

What Are Habits? – Habits are acts that are stuck in the ‘habit loop’ and have been for some time – trigger – routine – reward. When you get bored or tired, you might get into the habit of eating. Suddenly, something will trigger this desire, and then we fulfill it. The problem with this process is the ‘reward’ phase because the habit is something that we like; in no way does this mean it is good for us, it just means we feel rewarded by the habit.

Over time, a habit that is in the loop will grow stronger and stronger until it seems almost impossible to break. However, this new 65-day plan may just help you better than any plan you have tried before.

First 10 Days – Once you have identified a habit you want to lose, you have to look inwards and find the triggers that create the ‘need’ for this habit. For example, do you eat because you’re bored, sad, depressed, lonely? Whatever your habit may be, spend some time looking inwards and find what your triggers are.

Days 11-40 – For the next few weeks, you need to tell everybody you know that you are in the process of breaking your habit. If you don’t tell anyone, the consequences of a mistake are minimal. If you tell all your family, friends, colleagues, and even your mail carrier, you will be called out when you slip up. Make sure they are ready to put you in your place should you start to slip; keep reminding them that this is important to you.

Days 41-65 – The toughest part of this section is that you are quite likely to collapse, but you have to ensure that you keep your head in the game and remember the triggers. Knowing how to notice triggers and deal with them quickly and efficiently is the only way you are going to turn this into a long-term success.

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Ultimately, this process is purely psychological, and you need to reward yourself when you do well. Although the end goal will be to lose the habit and this brings its own rewards, be ready to treat yourself, and you will be less likely to fail in the future. Also, it may take you a few days extra if you had a couple of relapses in the middle but as long as you stay focused and remember the tips above, you should be good to go!

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GET RID OF THESE HABITS AND YOU’LL BE HAPPIER!

Bad Habits. We all have some…

However, they can also be the downfall of our existence, get rid of these following habits and you are more thank likely to be happier.

 

Sometimes life can be hard. There is no denying this fact. However, you can make your life easier just by removing some poor habits. You may look at your life now and think that you can’t do anymore but have a little look down this list and see if they affect you.

 

Complaining – No matter how much you complain, nothing will ever happen. When you complain, all you are doing is spreading negative energy and putting yourself (as well as everyone else around you) in a bad mood. If you want to make a change, go ahead and act.

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Time-Wasting – You go home after a long day’s work, eat dinner, and then crash in front of the TV until it is time to go to bed; just think about all the things you could be doing in this time. You could be studying towards a new career, exercising to stay fit, learning a new skill, or absolutely anything. A good way to see where you are losing time is to keep a diary and then review it at the end of each week; you will be surprised at how much time you waste.

Negative Thinking – One day, write down all the negative thoughts you receive; you will be shocked at the result because you have probably just got used to it. When you realize just how negatively you have been thinking, you can do something about it to become more positive.

 

Not Planning – Let’s ask a question – how do you know where you are going if you have no plan? It becomes so easy to waste time when you don’t have a plan because you don’t know if it is progressing you or not. If you work out a plan to achieve your goals, decisions will be made for you and you will know the next steps to take to progress.

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Too Much Phone Time – Technology has advanced dramatically in recent years, but you still need to look up now and then; sometimes we spend all day at work and then all night looking at our phones. Why not turn your phone off now and then to spend quality time with those around you?


Lack of Sleep – Sleep is vital because it refreshes both your body and your mind allowing you to concentrate the next day. If you aren’t getting enough sleep, you are giving yourself no chance to do anything worthwhile the next day; the more you do it, the more it becomes a habit and the longer you will struggle.

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Staying Comfortable – How are you ever going to progress if you don’t leave your comfort zone? The comfort zone is great (hence the name), but if you don’t push yourself every now and then, you will never progress and become the person you want to be.

 

These are seven simple bad habits and ones that can be easily changed. It is all too easy to say that we are ‘fed up’ with life or that we want to ‘grow’ but we are holding ourselves back with these poor habits. If you want to progress, change your habits. We’re on this journey together!

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HOW TO BEGIN LIKING YOURSELF

HOW TO BEGIN LIKING YOURSELF

Lately, it’s becoming easier to become more and more negative to ourselves. It doesn’t help that at the same time being told that it is obnoxious to like or even love ourselves. It is so easy to hold on to failure and to start playing the blame game but it is vital that you begin liking yourself. How can we truly like other people or progress in life if we don’t value our own qualities?

Here are 3 sure ways to help you begin liking yourself (even more):

1. Take Some Time -Wtime iwontlosehy not try some things by yourself? Go for a walk, watch a film, treat yourself to dinner; whatever it may be, make sure you have fun. Every now and then, forget about what you are wearing, your hair, your makeup, etc, and just take some time for yourself. You work hard and someone should reward you for that but who is that person? YOU!

2. It’s fine to compliment yourself – Instead of looking in the mirror and noticing what you don’t like, point out all the things you do like. Make sure you practice this often and always remember that it’s okay to get into the habit of complimenting yourself.  Do not forget to remember that mistakes will happen, they happen to every single person on. When they do occur, you don’t have to beat yourself up and let it ruin your day. Stay calm, notice where you went wrong and what you can do to ensure it doesn’t happen again and move forward. Be nice to yourself always and don’t rely on others to congratulate you for something, you could be waiting a long time. Instead, give yourself a pat on the back.

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3. The Past Has Gone – There is no point dwelling on the past because it has gone and there is nothing you can do to change what has happened. What you can change is what is right in front of you. As long as you learn from yesterday, you can move forward happily into tomorrow. We have a habit of focusing on the things we don’t like about ourselves, why not focus on what you like instead? Think about what you are known for in your family or group of friends and leave the past in the past where it belongs.

Ultimately, it can become all too easy to compare ourselves to other people but we are all unique and we all have our special qualities. We don’t have to wait for someone to compliment us on a job well done or to treat us, we can do it ourselves. Why not start today? begin liking yourself every day.

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Succeed Even After Failing

To some people, failure can quite literally be the end of the world. They try to lead their lives as close to ‘perfection’ as possible and if something goes wrong, they have failed and they struggle to get over it. To them, it proves that they are human and that things can go wrong but this is something that they don’t like or enjoy.

 

If you are reading this so far whilst nodding along, you have to realise that this isn’t a healthy way to live. You have to realise that there are certain things in life that you simply cannot control and so things will go wrong from time to time. However, this doesn’t mean that you have some sort of problem that you have to fix. The most important thing about failure is how you deal with it; of course, the easiest thing to do is let it get you down and dwell on how badly you have failed. Although this is the easier method, it definitely isn’t the best one.

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The best way to deal with failure is to use it as an opportunity to learn; it gives you a chance to learn what you can do to improve so that you can do better the next time. Let’s say you have an interview for your dream job and you fail to get offered the role; you could be down and think ‘it’s all over’ OR you can find out where you went wrong and learn how to improve so you ensure you get the job next time. It is important to find out why you failed; in our example, did you fail because you failed to do enough research on the company? Was it because your resume wasn’t up to scratch? Whatever the reason for your failure, you can then treat it as a stepping stone towards growth to ensure it doesn’t happen again.

 

This is what’s known as ‘The Art of Failure’; knowing how to deal with failure is seen as an art because it can sometimes teach you more than success. If you want to succeed in life, you have to harness this power because you will be sure to hit some bumps along the way. If you find yourself failing often, see if there is a common denominator for your failure and find out how to fix it. Maybe it is your mindset; do you need to be more confident?

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As soon as you realise that failure can help you to learn and that you have the power to do so, overcoming a problem suddenly isn’t as hard as it seems. Once you breakdown exactly why you failed and work out solutions to this problem, your personal development will improve dramatically as not all people have this skill; you will suddenly set yourself apart from the rest of the crowd. Treat life like a journey and make sure that you take the hard times alongside the good times; if you ever fail at something, pick yourself up, dust yourself off, find out why you failed and improve in that area so you can continue on the road to success.

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3 Self Changes for a Successful 2016

3 Self Chages for a Successful 2016

Do you ever feel like things are holding you back? Holding you back from where you want to be, where you need to be or potentially how you need to grow? There are so many things that we do in life that we potentially forget what we need to remove from our lives to finally grow and just win. The year of 2016 is all bout evolving and excelling growth. Chasing our dreams/goals this year is crucial even if it means removing things from our life that will hold us back from reaching any of it. There are 3 things we can remove from our lives in order to win and gain success, are you ready to give these up in 2016?

3 Self Changes for a Successful 2016

1.Procrastination has to be one of the biggest things a lot of us tend to struggle with. We have all these ideas but don’t ever take the time to write them down but most importantly get started on what you want to become in the future. The longer you wait, the longer it’ll take. Make sure you take some time out of your day even if it’s a quarter of the day, to start your craft and do what you love! Nothing is more irritating than having all these ideas, knowing you could be successful but not starting at all.

2. Negative Energy has to be the second thing on our list to remove in order to win. When we’re around negativity all the time, that doesn’t help us get closer to our craft, but farther. We need to realized a point in our life where we understand that things are not worth losing your dreams and goals and that being around negative energy all the time won’t persuade us to get where we need to be. We need to reach new heights in surrounding ourselves around positivity as hard it could be in a world full of negativity. This will be one of the ways to get going on your craft and WIN.

3. Fear is another factor that stops us from getting where we need to be. We’re so focused on thinking we’re not going to make it that we forget to realize that saying things like we’re not going to make it, then we won’t. If we say things like we are going to make it then we will, it all comes with perseverance and dedication. So many dreams are pushed under the rug because people are too scared to chase what they want because they may fail, but understand that failing comes with success and being greater. You must fail in order to experience the wave of doing good and learning to better yourself in terms of WINNING.

These are ways that can help you win, help you grow, help you stay motivated and rejuvenated for the year of 2016 but not only that, for your life. We need to stop letting things stop us from getting where we need to be and dedicate ourselves to more positive things within the future removing things that stop us from the process. Do you want to win? Or is staying at the same level something you’re okay with for the years to come. We hope you decide to win this year!

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WHY YOU SHOULDN’T DELAY YOUR GOALS!

WHY YOU SHOULDN’T DELAY YOUR GOALS!

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Today I just wanted to go over the topic about why each and every single one of you should not delay your goals! I know it seems like a topic that everyone seems to cover every so often but this will be an article that you can relate to in your everyday lives. Is there something that you always thought about doing when it comes to your career? You think about it day and night or even before you go to bed? When you wake up in the morning?

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