Let’s start this with a question – when you look at the people at the top of your desired field, do you think that they have ever been through negative experiences? All things considered, this could be a failure, mistakes, and just negative issues that affected their development. Of course, the answer to this is ‘yes’ because everyone has hard times. However, it is how we react and respond to these that will allow us to progress in life.
When we look for ways to grow as a person, we normally look for success and good decisions. However, as counter-intuitive as it sounds, there is something to be said for learning the negative life lessons. When we were children, our parents would tell us not to play in the street while we learned other things to avoid ourselves. Despite this, we seem to lose this as we grow older until we only focus on what we should be doing. Why is this the case?
Whether it is for our personal lives or in regards to our career, learning what we shouldn’t do is vital. Therefore, the negative life lessons provide us with opportunities in which we get to know ourselves and how to progress. In business, you have to learn not to treat employees poorly. Otherwise, they lose motivation and productivity decreases. In a relationship, yo have to learn not to cut your partner from important decisions otherwise they feel as though their opinion isn’t important. Too often, people see negative experiences as a sign that they should stop, turn around, and run in the opposite direction. Instead, they should be used as opportunities to grow and develop as a person.
In truth, we could take this a step further. Not only is it important to learn from our mistakes, but it is also valuable to learn from the mistakes of others. If you sit and watch as a friend or colleague fails in some way, you would be foolish to go out there and attempt the same thing. Regardless of the source, the people around you will provide you with opportunities to learn, so you need to snap them up whenever they arise.
So far, we have used the term ‘negative life lessons, ’ and this is because they result from negative experiences. However, a good mindset to adopt would be one that sees all life lessons as positive. When Thomas Edison invented the light bulb, the world would be changed forever, but not many people know that he actually failed many times before. In fact, he failed in his creation around 10,000 times. When questioned on this ‘failure,’ he noted that he didn’t fail 10,000 times, he simply found 10,000 ways in which the light bulb would not work. When you think about it, this is a beautiful statement, and it sums up the point we have been discussing today.
As soon as you learn to see all lessons as positive, the faster you will make progress towards your goals. Always seeing success can be great but what if you could consistently see success while knowing exactly how to avoid failure? If you put a lot of effort into something only for it to fail tremendously, take a step back and realize how good this can be. Of course, you are entitled to a few seconds of being disappointed, but then you can focus on how not to make the same mistakes in the future!